As someone who had an "anti" for a gf for 7 years (now I have a very tactical gf, life is infinitely better!)
Let me give you the recipe, if giving up the gf is not an option.
Twoblink's quick and dirty guide to turn an anti-gf, to a Runt or Tamara... (Ok, maybe not that extreme.. but at least to a non-anti)
#1) Buy an airsoft.
These things are the "gateway drugs" of the gun world. Shoot it around the house, set up little targets. She might be annoyed, until you tell her "I'll put it away after you take 10 shots". After 10 shots, she'll be hooked.
Then tell her her that these things kick more then a .22LR.
#2) Ask her THE QUESTION..
No no no, not marriage,.... THE QUESTION.
Don't know what THE QUESTION is??
THE QUESTION::
"Do you want to put 100% of your safety into the hands of the government (Police, Military)... KEEPING IN MIND THEY ARE THE SAME PEOPLE THAT RUN THE POST OFFICE AND THE
DMV....? (Make sure you say... DMV... a few times.) That thought alone should give her nightmares at night.
#3) If she says yes; FIND A NEW GIRLFRIEND. ANY GIRL THAT WOULD TRUST HER LIFE TO THOSE WHO RUN THE DMV, IS A DYED IN THE WOOL TOE TAG SHEEPLE.
#4) Assuming she answers no: Ask her then... "Do you know the difference between a: boy, man, real man?"
Boy = cannot defend himself
Man = can defend himself
Real Man = can defend himself and HIS LOVED ONES.
Tell her that you would like to be a "Real Man" instead of a boy.
#5) Ask her "Do you know the difference between a: girl, woman, real woman"?
Girl = defenseless
Woman = Can defend herself
Real Woman = Can defend herself AND HER LOVED ONES.
Tell her, you would like to date a real woman.
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After that introduction, we now get into the hypotheticals.
Scenerio #1) You two are walking down a street; when you are held up by a man with a gun. If the man were to shoot one of you, who do you think is the more likely target? You, or her?
Answer of course is You; because you are a bigger threat to the mugger. So tell her, there is a very high likelihood that if confronted, you might become seriously wounded, and so the responsibility of defending herself and you, now rests on her shoulders. So from that scenerio, let her know what it's not enough that you know how to use a gun and carry one, but she should as well.
Scenerio #2) She's asleep, hears her front door being kicked down. Two items on the table:
a) A gun
b) A telephone
Ask her which item would she pick up?
If she says a phone... ask her, "What are you going to do with the phone? Throw it at him?"
If she answer phone: Here is the follow -up question.. to it..
"You walk into the house and find a man, raping your girlfriend... There are two items on the table, a phone and a gun... WHICH WOULD SHE WANT YOU TO PICK UP??"
If she says phone... DUMP HER. Not worth having.
Another followup question you can ask is.. "Which will arrive faster... a 357Mag 125 grain Jacketed Hollow Point aimed at the rapist's head, or the police to her front door?" Given roughly 1000fps, that's less then 1/100th of a second for the first to happen, while it might take up to 2 hours for the second one to happen.
That is my "starter" kit. Give it a try. Thus far, hasn't failed.