Skywarp
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XD sub compact in 9mm is also an awesome choice for petite women. Slim, easy recoiling and cheaper than alot of these guns.
Or a sig239 in 9mm
Or a sig239 in 9mm
The recoil on the P3AT is pretty snappy (as stated) but it can be tamed. Check here. If you further want to contour the grip, simply add layers of tubing underneath the main layer. Also the +1 magazine extension does a lot towards giving you a better grip on the pistol without adding too much bulk.