Scenero for a woman in a store alone with staff.

[JWarren]

Xenia,

Thanks for your explaination. Actually, I was only half-disagreeing from my original understand of what you wrote. From my way of understanding, I would have lumped practically all sexual offenders in a "dominant" category. Logically, I could see that as a motivating characteristic. My contention was that a dominant personality doesn't have a correlation with being a function of one becoming an offender.

Thank you for your break-down on sexual predator characteristics. Frankly, as I inferred in the above paragraph, I would have been more likely to push more into your first definition. I've never really considered the second. You learn something new every day.


After spending more time on this thread due to discussions, I do want to add my voice to those that have suggested carrying on your person as opposed to in your purse. Their arguements made a lot of sense to me. I should take that to heart as well. Often I will slip my handgun in a side-pocket on my laptop case when walking to and from my office. Seems that this could be a weak-spot in my preperations as well.


At any rate, thanks for taking the time to respond, and thanks for educating me (us) on offender characteristics. And again, I am glad that your situation went as it did.


-- John

 

[strambo]

Further points on my comment that if it had been an assault, she probably would have been surprised.

This is normal and what often occurs in violence. It just happens, you know you are in it after getting grabbed or clocked. Why? Because predators are looking for food. "Food" identifies itself by being distracted, looking weak, timid etc. Now, at this point you might be saying "Not me, I live in condition Orange." "I'm always alert....blah, blah..." Bull#@, nobody is always alert. Everyone has times when they are distracted by personal problems or just plain sick with the flu. Guess what, on those days...you are on the menu!

So, since criminals look for easy targets...by definition that means if you are involved in a violent situation, then it will have a high chance of being when you are unprepared/distracted.

Now, none of the above applies to silly macho man-dancing. You know the bar fight social pecking order BS. You get to see that coming and decide to take part in it or not (I recommend "not").

What remains is to train taking this into consideration. That means squaring off with plenty of distance (and time) is a false sense of security. You need to train on injuring people in close and with you and them in varying positions in 3D space.

So, when you get clocked from behind (on one of those rare "bad" days), knocked down and look up at the hulk standing over you...your subconscious thinks "I've been here before, there is the groin" and you throw your torso up (a situp to get bodyweight in motion) and slam your palm into his groin, rupturing a testicle. Then you take it from there until the threat is no longer a factor.

 

[Xenia]

very helpful post Strambo. You are absolutely right that there is no way that I am always alert all the time as I should be. Thanks for the post!