Sparkyguy,
WHOA there buddy, don't have a coronary! We are just talkin about some ammo here that pokes a little hole in ya.
If you like your 9's, great, shoot them. You don't have to defend them for the rest of us. I just prefer that you carry something/anything. Hell, I'd be fine with a 22! I carry one of those too as my "unarmed gun".
It's your money buy what you want.
As for the original OT post,
+p or not to +p depends on bullet design, gun, and shooter. I like big things moving fast. So if you can't get one then get the other but preferably both.
Now that being said, +p will bring more wear and tear to any firearm if you shoot a regular diet of it. I'd plink with regular, train with a bit of +p and carry +p, but I would not buy some of the +p cheap stuff where the bullet is going too fast and blows apart. Jacket separation causes horrible terminal performance. If you can afford it...the Corbon DPX stuff is great. It is VERY pricey, but hey, we are talkin about your life here after all!
Anyhooo...just my $.02 have a great Saturday!