hentown,
I've reloaded roughly 14,000 rounds of 357 Sig (no period in front of the 357, since it's a name chosen by Sig), plus I also load for .400 Cor-Bon and 9x25 Dillon. They're all bottleneck handgun rounds. While it's true they can headspace on the shoulder, and some do, if the case neck is too long, they simply won't fit the chamber. That makes them have two datum points, the neck and shoulder. One or the other will work for headspacing, particularly in the 357 Sig, but if they're both too long, they won't work. If one or the other is too long, they won't work. They both have to be within spec. to work, though if one is less than spec., and the other is spec., it will work. I don't know if I made that clear or not...
I size my brass for my chambers, and chambers do vary, depending on the reamer and who chambered it. My two 357 Sig pistols are very close to the same chamber size, so that simplifies things for me in this regard, but one pistol shoots better with 124 grain bullets and the other is more accurate with 115 grain bullets.
The 357 Sig is a flat shooting and inherently accurate round. It's not as flat shooting as the 9x25 Dillon, but is a close second, within about 100 yards or so. The 9x25 gets another 200 fps out of the same bullet, so it's naturally flatter shooting.
Hope this helps.
Fred