I'm not sure the point of the post. This is how I see the issues. If you want really low felt recoil in .380 then yes shoot a heavier weighted gun. Try the full size versions as others have mentioned. The felt recoil will be less. Now the point of the .380 is to have a smaller package for CCW and the like. To that end the Bersa, or my old Browning DBA, or similer sized guns all have very manageble recoil for male or female. If you are just recoil sensitive then maybe a 22 is the way to go.