Too bad you didn't break 'em with a torque wrench to see how much they overdid it then. It doesn't take much. Shoot, when I build, I don't even use a torque wrench anymore after seeing how the SF gunsmith I knew repaired rifles. Basically, that gas tube dictates where it goes. When you get it snug, then when you go to tighten, the hole lines up. If you go to the next hole, you are almost guaranteed to over tighten. I've built several rifles this way and have had no problem from any of them.
I use grease, lithium or moly is what they recommend (I'd have to look that up, I currently use TW25B). You don't want it to seize, and bear in mind any grease on those threads will change how much torque is needed to line up the gas tube. I snug, then tighten to the very next hole I can line up after I get it real snug. If you can "feel" torque to any degree at all, you don't need the wrench after the first few times, it only gets in the way.
Over torquing can cause problems to say the least with the M4. You really don't want to overdo the flash hider either... That is worse. It can crush or warp the rifling right at the muzzle, just killing accuracy.
Finally, torque recommendations are from an engineering point of view, a way of keeping the end builders from over tightening fasteners. AAC says you only need to hand tighten their flash suppressors when using the Rocksett... But people would STILL call, saying that can't be true, and others would ignore it and tighten with a wrench. So they came out with torque specifications for this reason alone.
It wouldn't surprise me if the torque recommendations were added to the M4 barrel for the same reason. Also, the military is pretty anal, so NOT having torque specifications for a fastner is just out of the question. I've never seen anything that has threads and a manual in the army NOT have torque recommendations, come to think of it!
Sounds like they are trying to mitigate the number of returned uppers due to loose barrel nuts. I've seen it happen, it is more common than you'd think, and I'd say at least 2 in 100, maybe more, Colt M4 rifles that we got developed loose barrels after one year of service. Easy fix in the army, but expensive when fulfilling a warranty.
Also, if I remember right, the torque specification is a very wide range, almost silly... I mean, why have a torque specification with nearly a 40lb variance? Probably because the army wanted one. Torque specifications are usually pretty narrow, enough so that you NEED the wrench to hit the sweet spot.
This is why I like to build all my own stuff. I don't have problems with over tight stuff or things falling apart either. I also get MY choice of parts, and I'm pretty close to coming up with the "perfect" build (for me anyway).
Also like to mention, as cheap as uppers are, I had one that had a very fine bull barrel with a low round count. It was overtightened and wouldn't come off, even damaged the receiver trying. So I cut the receiver off to save the barrel...