Discussion in 'Handguns: General Discussion' started by FranklyTodd, Jan 22, 2010.
My wife had a co-worker who was a single mom raising a 10 year son. They were invited over to our girls' birthday party and that boy was absolutely fascinated with my lawnmower. I was afraid he was going to try and start the thing in the middle of the party. Turns out he never had any exposure to the typical things we take for granted.
Same goes for taking the mystery out of things. Whether its firearms or lawnmowers. My children know I have them and that they can see them if they ask. They also know not to talk about them outside of the house since the schools are zero tolerance and everybody else is an unknown.
A lot can be read into this statement...perhaps things that shouldn't be read into it...
Really? I can't think of a thing that could be read into it, but if your imagination is running with it, go for it!
Seriously though, I didn't mean anything interesting, probably no reason for me to have called him out by profession. Just a guy I know, happens to be a judge, took the CCW class and has his permit, elects not to carry. He's one of the three people that knows I carry. We swapped CCW class stories.
buck, I think you might be getting carried away. The kids don't know I carry an amex, either, or what color socks I put on. The kids don't watch me get dressed in the morning (when I strap on) and they don't watch me change out of my clothes when I get home (when I put it away). I carry concealed, so by your logic I'm "intentionally lying" to everyone that sees me? If he asked I would not lie about it - no way! The time he hit it and said "what the heck!?" it was not a serious question to which he expected an answer, he just hurt his hand a little.
If any of the kids had a clue about it they would ask me about it in a second. We have very open communications about everything. This topic just hasn't ever come up because it's concealed carry. My wife rarely sees me arm either, it's just part of my morning routine - she doesn't watch me floss my teeth either... The fact that it hasn't come up is why I started this thread, now that we are this far along and they are getting older I am debating how/when/if to bring it up.
Heck, my gun was with me in the delivery room when my last child was born. Don't believe he noticed it that day. (Rushed from work to home, from there to the hospital, no time to stop, and no place to safely lock up a gun. So, it went into the delivery room with me.)
They were taught gun safety as early as possible. Shooting a .22 at around five years old, and progressed to larger calibers.
Like someone said, kids are more observant then we give them credit for.
i'm really making an effort to live honestly since having kids and find that it is returned with honesty...there is very little that we can't talk about...it's just a matter of trust. i've always answered any question they've asked as honestly as they can understand...i just ask for some discretion about "where" they ask their questions. but that's just a personal choice, i don't ask others to live their life that way.
i'm a product of my childhood. they also have an automatic response should i say "Cover", know the difference between cover and concealment, know which parts of cars will stop bullets and know that the first priority if something "happens" at school is to "get out"
Good parenting is knowing when a child is ready to take on or accept the next level of responsibility, for example, that daddy CCs and don't go blabbing this all over town. Each family moves along this continuum at its own rate. Some do this well, others not.
It's kind of like in the Army: your briefing will only contain exactly what you or your unit needs to carry out your part of the mission. What concerns the brass is seldom shared with the ranks (even though the latter live or die by it). Family life is kind of like that.
I count myself as lucky as most of my son's friends come from homes with guns so it's no big deal.
My younger daughter, who is 20, is a bit more liberal than I am (don't read anything into that: she is a good shot and enjoys shooting) and she prefers that her friends not know that I carry, so I just cover up when her friends come over.
Well it could have been phrased:
The way you put it sounded to me like you might be having to do what you have to do.
One would think that she would support you being prepared to protect the family.
Thomas Jefferson said something to the effect of "it is not only every man's right but responsibility to go about armed"
i've been hunting since before I was old enough to have a license to do so. I'd sit in the tree stand with my dad or along the hedge row helping him to look for deer so I've been around guns (and bows) all my life. The guns (shotguns and rifles) were kept in a gun cabinet with sliding glass doors (this was the 1970s, no gun safe) in my parents bedroom. I never felt the need to play with the guns and I knew where they were and how to use them since I was 6. I think the reason I didn't have the curiousity was because I was regularly taken out to shoot them as opposed to being hidden from them.
If you think about it, kids are cursious. If you hid the stove from them and then one day showed it to them they'd probably be just as curious. I'm not saying you should expose them to the guns but I know if I had kids I would expose them to the guns regularly and as much as they wanted to be so as to cure that curiousity.
that's unfortunate. my wife to be appreciates the fact I'm carrying and always have a weapon ready to protect us.
why is your wife against carrying?
You'd have to ask her, but she's not on these boards much... She has accepted my decision to carry, but it's not for her. We don't sit around and discuss guns and gun-related topics.
I agree - my kids are regularly exposed to guns; they do not know I CCW.
This post is not really on topic and kind of obnoxious. Here's part of Jefferson's wikipedia:
Might be time to evolve a little there, G.
Not near as obnoxious as a the one that was obviously posted by one that is arrogant and fatuous as well as displays autocratic tendancies.
Read back, you might be able to figure out which one I reference.
Looking at your post count, you post on average roughly twice per day 365 days per year. Maybe you should read more and try to learn from others' experiences and, when relevant, offer your experiences, rather than offer your unconstructive criticism and/or agenda every chance your get, even where it is neither invited nor appreciated.
Let's agree to disagree.
He doesn't need to remind Papa but does: "Keys, Phone, Wallet, Gun."
He hasn't said anything out loud in public. He knows why Papa carries, to protect the family and keep us safe. This is a great comfort to him.
Gotta love it when you hit a bullseye
I'm with you I have been a stay at home dad for 7 years now and both my kids know I carry and have never said a thing, guns are a part of there lives and know some basic gun safty
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