Did I overreact? My wife thinks I'm becoming a gun nut

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On occasion, I've suspected a car of following me home and ALWAYS kept driving until they quit following.
You are relatively safe in your vehicle so long as you are able to keep rolling and keep the location of your home from the Road Rager.
99% of the time, firearms are not the best solution for this type of problem.
 
When faced with a situation like the one you described, just ask yourself, WWG45D?
 
You're on THR, of course you're a gun nut...
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Just kidding. I understand being scared, but brandishing a weapon does little good, as others have said. And I agree with whoever it was who said if you think you're being followed, don't go home.
 
Overreaction..... No confrontation or justification? Was the guy even really following you? If he was, was he attempting to do anything to you?
 
You need to think long and hard before you decide to brandish a FA for little to no reason. The price to be paid could be very high. :eek:
 
I see people pull out of left turn lanes and back into trafic all the time, are you absolutely certain you were even being followed?

QUOTE : " I had someone following me once, I turned around and made my way 4 miles to the local gun range, I stopped, they stopped behind me, I step out with a .45 in hand (I'm going to the gun range, so it's legal) and they turn tail and book it from the parking lot. "

This man is a genius
 
It is in these moments that I step out of the car brandishing my machete. If they still want a piece of me after that, they can come try to take it. :eek:

If that doesn't work, my wife will shoot them once they have the best of me. :neener:
 
Yeah that was incredibly dumb to even think about letting the guy follow you home.

I've had psychos follow me around before, and they quickly drive off as soon as I pull into the police station. It's always a good idea to drive into a more crowded area when something like that happens.
 
neededausername said:
I told this to my wife and she went on about me being to in the mindset of a gunowner and I should have found another way to resolve the situation.
She was right about the second part. Go to the cop shop; don't let those who might have been criminals know where you live. Certainly don't show them that you own a pistol for them to break into your house later and try to steal.

The first part of what she said was incorrect; you're reporting that you haven't settled into the mindset yet. Relax.
 
Although the original post might not have been a good scenario I don't agree with the following:

If the situation did not justify shooting, it did not justify drawing.

There are probably many instances where drawing and then someone backing down doesn't justify shooting whereas if they continued you would have been justified in shooting. I had it happen recently. I've had it happen with animals and people.

Even with animals, maybe more so, officials question you very hard about what made you think you had to shoot. A question that I used in response that seemed to even the playing field was, "At what point would you shoot?" "You are a police officer. Trained in situations like this. At what point would you shoot?" I guarentee that they wouldn't wait as long as they would like us to because they know how quickly things can go bad.
 
Probably.

What stopped you from driving away from your home to a place where LE or a group of people would be present? Why bring them to your family and put them at risk also?

"To a man with a hammer, everything looks like a nail." Mark Twain's admonition is to not blind yourself to the other, and probably better, options.
 
"Boomsticks are not all-purpose tools.

They do not resolve all problems.

Best thing to do is to NOT drive like Danica Patrick. You are NOT on a track. You are engaged in transport, not competition. Drive like a sane person, don't get confrontational with other drivers, and you'll see several benefits. You won't get followed by people who you piss off. You won't get as many speeding or reckless driving tickets. You won't be in as many accidents. I tend to hang back, and see what other drivers are going to do, rather than get close to them, and then have to swerve to avoid their idiocy... Doesn't really take a lot longer to get from point a to point b.

Second best thing to do is find your local cop shop, and pull up in front."

Awesome advice. Sometimes it's best to just be a ghost on the road. Farrrrr to many times have I let my pride get in the way and I go about flicking off some crazy guy who chases me around town.

Sometimes you just can't avoid pissing someone off, no matter how hard to try. This one time I turned right onto a street and I guess the guy behind me thought I pulled out in front of him(I didn't at all). Well he must have been having a bad day or something so he starts chasing me around town, tailing me, honking...well now I started to get pissed off so I SLAMMED on my breaks...he hits the back of my car...I think he was completely shocked that I'd do a thing like that and realized maybe I have a little less to lose than he does...and he quickly drove off in an effed up 2007 colorado avalanche...I was driving a $400 Mazda 323 with 345,000 miles on it...bumper was a little screwed up but not near as messed up as his truck.

This was incredibly dumb of me, but I lucked out and it's a pretty funny story.
 
There are probably many instances where drawing and then someone backing down doesn't justify shooting whereas if they continued you would have been justified in shooting.

What you say here is true, but at the moment you draw the firearm, if you're not justified in shooting, you're probably not justified in drawing. That's not to say that as you draw, and the situation continues to change, that you HAVE to shoot. What's important (legally) is the situation at the split second you start to draw.


There are several (if not many) threads that discuss this point and in all of it's variations.
 
Only one or two posts recognized the true beginning of the problem:

Your bad driving behavior.

Then you followed up with a whole series of bad judgements.
The dumbest thing in the world is asking your wife to expose herself to danger and brandish a firearm. I'm glad you didn't do that.

Many posts above contain a lot of good advice. Read them thoroughly.
 
down in flames!

You fared here on THR almost as well as spending the first night in a Mexican jail!

I hope you do come back after this reaming and learn from some of the less critical posters here.

Here is what I think.
The problem you face is more with your wife than with your actions.
That is -her conception that you might have "resolved" this occurrence.
She seems not to comprehend the potential seriousness of what you faced, and further, that it was one that might have been discussed, negotiated, or someone to be reasoned with. It might have and it might have not.

Suggestion. Purchase a Police Scanner, and when you are at home with her listen to the local crime activity. She may become more aware of society today and that we must all be a little "more carefull out there."
And that there are many people you can come across who, if you will
respond to their provocations by trying to resolve issues with them will only consider you an easy mark. You will encourage their agression.
Your wife should learn that.

If you are unable to carry a firearm yourself; investigate what other type of weapon is legal for you to possess on your person or in your vehicle.
 
I've been in a similar situation. Personally I find it deplorable that anyone would "give chase" because you cut them off in traffic, but this happened to me. I accidentally cut someone off in rush hour traffic and they followed me across multiple lanes, through two U-turns, and then some. It was absolutely terrifying. I eventually pulled into a mall parking lot (many security cameras) and the person drove away. One thing I NEVER did was drive towards where I live. I think 99% of the people that commit actions like I and the OP mentioned probably aren't a threat, they're just short tempered jerks. I have a time-limit... 5 minutes or 5 miles. If the person isn't off my ass in that amount of time, I call the police. Then it's no longer anger, it's stalking with some sort of intent.
 
My question is this. At what point do these cease to be legitimate defensive gun uses and become illegal brandishing? I'm sure there is an easy common sense answer, but IMHO the laws rarely allow for the application of common sense. I'm also aware that the laws vary greatly from state to state. Not looking for legal advice, just curious what your opinions are.

This is my Opinion: There are many like it but This One Is Mine:

If I draw, it is because I reasonably believe that I am justified in using deadly force against someone under 776.012 Florida Statutes. when I draw, it is for the purpose of aiming and destroying my target.

If, in those last brief moments, my target displays some semblance of self-preservation (and it HAS HAPPENED more than once) and flees my general vicinity, no longer offering deadly force as the dance du jour, then at that time I am no longer justified in offering deadly force in my own self defense and at that time I holster my firearm and call the law to get on the record what just happened.

There are probably many instances where drawing and then someone backing down doesn't justify shooting whereas if they continued you would have been justified in shooting. I had it happen recently. I've had it happen with animals and people.

Is this not the same thing? The situation that caused you to draw justified shooting. In the course of your presentation of your firearm in preparation to utilize deadly force, the situation was de-escalated by the reaction of your assailant, at which point your justification to shoot ceases. This does not make the draw unjustifiable; It merely means that you didn't have to defend your life THIS TIME but you very nearly did.

Even with animals, maybe more so, officials question you very hard about what made you think you had to shoot. A question that I used in response that seemed to even the playing field was, "At what point would you shoot?" "You are a police officer. Trained in situations like this. At what point would you shoot?" I guarentee that they wouldn't wait as long as they would like us to because they know how quickly things can go bad.

Oh, I wouldn't know about that. I'd say that varies from officer to officer. Having stared down my sights at a human once or twice in my life, I found myself looking for reasons NOT to shoot, not waiting for justification; I had it. I could have legally taken the shot, but I did not. In retrospect, I am rather glad I did not. And by the fact that I am still alive, I feel I made the correct judgement call in those cases.

Before I'd judge another human being on his willingness to take human life, I'd have to see how he's done with that scenario before. If he hasn't, there's really no litmus test to know in advance, no matter how good the MMPI test is.

What you say here is true, but at the moment you draw the firearm, if you're not justified in shooting, you're probably not justified in drawing. That's not to say that as you draw, and the situation continues to change, that you HAVE to shoot. What's important (legally) is the situation at the split second you start to draw.

Yes, exactly.

Then it's no longer anger, it's stalking with some sort of intent.

Yup. That can get scary. Since your assailant has chosen the time, best you choose the place for a confrontation that appears inevitable, and choose WISELY, as this may be your only advantageous decision you get to make.

If it isn't, you should consider yourself fortunate.

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I was at a stoplight before making the last turn to go home and almost called my wife to get the gun and meet me in driveway. I didn't want anyone shot or hurt but figured if they saw the pistol they would just drive on. Anyway I turned and they went straight.

Never let anyone follow you to your home. The last thing you want is for them to know where you live. Drive around and lose them in traffic, or drive to a police station, or find a police car and stop.
 
I always check to see if cars are following me as i near my house. If any are weather by intent or luck i always drive around the block till they stop. To many cases of gang bangers following cars and shooting the person when they get out, lots of gang passages are done this way.

Its always good to go to the police station.


Look what happened here. My friend a woman was driving and made the almost fatal mistake of using her horn on LA streets, the car she honked at started to follow her and get close to hitting her and yelling stuff, she decided to head to a public place and pull over (huge mistake, trapped her self) while on the phone to Police, when she parked the driver got out with a gun and started to point it at her and say your died, she quickly said she is on the phone with the cops and there on there way. He split the seen. But look at how easy it is for someone to get you as soon as you stop, it would of only taken 1 sec for him to pull the trigger and kill her. Lucky he thought getting far away was a better idea.
 
The other day I was coming home from work and someone in front of me was driving slow then got in the left turn lane. I sped up and passed them, and they cut off the next person in the lane and got behind me.

So I'm trying to follow this. You were aggressively tailgaiting the car ahead of you. Then he turned the tables on you and began aggressively following you... and you didn't like it? :scrutiny: I agree, ease off the caffeine... slow down, and yes... guns are not a magic wand that ward off bad people.
 
You need to drive a few times with a cougar sitting beside you. Right now you are one twitchy dude.
 
My apologies to responsible gun owners

Wow, here I was expecting you all to agree with me and not with my wife. But I realize I was wrong in this situation. I screwed up buy going home, I should have never put my wife in danger. Guess I just wasn't thinking clearly because I had a really bad week, and just wanted to get home and put it behind me. I know that doesn't excuse it, but next time I have a bad day/week I'll remember to think more.

So I apologize to all of the responsible gun owners out there, I almost made a mistake that makes us all look bad. I won't let it happen again. I hope you accept my apology, I learned me lesson.
 
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