Nothing wrong with a revolver...
I agree with what has been said about starting new shooters on revolvers for personal defense.
It is not a sexist thing at all. I would recommend *any* person, regardless of their sex, to start out with centerfire DA revolver as a defense weapon. They are safe, they are reliable, they are easy to shoot, they are easy to maintain. I just wouldn't get some little ultra light weight model. I would get a steel revolver, with a little heft to it.
Auotloaders are great as long as they don't malfunction. If an autoloader malfunctions, a novice shooter might not have the presence of mind to properly handle the malfunction in a life and death situation. Heck, I watched someone limp wrist one of the more popular brands polymer pistols a few years ago. It took this guy almost a minute to figure out how to clear the malfunction. If that guy would have been in a life or death situation, they'd have been killed...
All guns can malfunction, but a well maintained, quality revolver will have a lot fewer hiccups than any make or model of autoloader.
If a person takes shooting very seriously, they can certainly learn on an autoloader, but casual shooters are better off with a revolver, regardless of whether their sexual organs are on the inside or the outside.