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keep up a positive appearence and attitude, because it will help more then you can imagine.... if she see's you torn apart, tired and upset it will only make her feel worse, so anytime you see her or even speak to her, put on a smile and keep a little extra volume in your voice. it may seem silly on the phone, but you can tell when someone has a smile on their face when you speak to them on the phone. Keep it together for her and for your own health.

God bless you both, and God's speed through your hard time.


P.S. seeking out a friend for help, doesn't make you weak, not having the strength to admit you need help is what makes someone weak.
 
HKUSP45C,

Prayers sent brother.
Maybe they will let her sign a document letting you into the info loop.
Rest is your friend. You'll need the strength to give her support.
Breath deep. Be calm. Be a rock.
She'll need peaceable rest and recovery after the surgery.
She'll need calmly given intel as to what happened and what to expect.
The doc may handle explainations well, but you may need to clarify.

God bless.
 
Prayers sent, along with best wishes for a speedy recover. More tomorrow -

Hang in there, and never be shy about asking for a little moral support. The folks here are a caring bunch and you both will feel the love.;) It's bad enough to be the patient, but nothing sux worse than having to be a spectator when an SO is hurting and there's nothing you can do. As noted, a positive attitude can be contageous, express your concern, provide lots of support, but don't let her see you torn up.

There's no such thing as 'minor surgery'. My wife had her gall bladder out a few years ago, and though she didn't have as bad a time as your Mari, it was no picnic, but she did heal quickly once things got squared away. Be aware that she'll likely have to watch her diet. Losing the gall bladder affects the ability to digest fats. Some people don't notice any difference, but most have to be careful about how much/what type of fats they eat. the best advice I can offer is go slow on high fat foods when she comes home (No Big Macs or cheese steaks :neener: ) Good luck & God bless.
 
Dude,

Hang in there. Christian or not, there are a lot of people here thinking/praying about you and your loved one. I have been dealing with a physically ill SO for over 5 years. It is frustrating and will drain you phisically and emotionally if you let it. Remeber to take care of yourself first. That sounds selfish, but what I mean is this...if you het down/sick, your GF will have NO ONE to take care of HER!


1. Have your GF sign a HIPPA form allowing the Hospital to share her "Confidential" information with you.

2. Rest is your friend; sleep whenever, where ever you can

3. Educate yourself about your GF conditions via WEB MD or a RELIABLE source of information.

4. Find some support from her parents or your mutual friends. This is NOT being a burden, it is what friends are for. Most people want to help they just don't know what to do. IF someone offers help...TAKE IT!!!!!!!

PM me if you need to talk

Spoon
 
HKUSP45C, I work in the ER and I know exactly what your going through right now. It's never fun to see a loved one in pain. I'm confident that the medical team working on Mari will do a good job. I'll be prayin for ya both!

-Dev
 
Thanks everyone for the advice and support. I know it seems funny but I've been reading this board for a long time and I feel like you guys are all my friends. I have been trying soooo hard to be up beat and helpful but it's really tearing me up. I know it sounds selfish but I'm freaking exhausted. I've spent over 14 hours in the ER since Monday night as well as spending all my free either taking care of her or the dog (he has a broken leg and has to see the vet every 5 days to change the bandage on his external fixator and requires constant attention to make sure he doesn't break it) and I feel like there isn't enough time for sleep and relaxation. Added to which I get the immeasurable pleasure of seeing the only woman I love in pain or worse completely non-lucid. She looks right through me and doesn't even remeber my name most times. I'm getting a little edgy I guess.

Thanks again guys, please keep the prayers coming.
 
Well, it seems I was wrong about the "last" surgery being that particular Monday. She had the surgery and they were unsuccesful in removing the stones via endoscopy. They had to move her by ambulance to Memorial Herman where they have different equipment to do yet another surgery almost a week later.

She has finally fully recovered and is now back to work. Well, as fully as can be expected, she still can't lift over 40 lbs and can't do anything strenuous, but hey, at least she's awake and only taking Alleve for pain.

Sorry to bring up an old thread, I just wanted to thank everyone for their kind words, prayers and advice. They all helped me, hence us, tremendously.

You guys are the best bunch on the block. Thanks ever so much again.

If I can help any of you guys, ever, please don't hesitate to ask.
 
Dear HK
Prayers sent to your wife and you. Rest whenever you can, she needes you strong.

CZhen, Fl
 
Even though it took a while, HK, I'm glad it worked out ok for Mari. :D

My wife had gall bladder surgery last year also. The good thing about it is that a full recovery without much change in daily life is the norm. If the liver stones were successfully removed, dissolved or broken up, that too shouldn't leave any problems after the stress and healing of the surgery is over.

Take care.
 
Glad to hear Mari is up and about! Prayer is powerful, no matter what your religion. You have plenty of friends here who care. Get some rest and stay strong for her. She'll be outshooting you again in no time! :)
Take care, both of you and Blessed Be!
 
outstanding

I told ya it would be alright. Kinda reminds you of whats important. My Jeanne is insulen dependent. I could relate.

From the response to this thread. I think we can put to rest, the scary gun guys myth. Makes me proud.

God you gave back a gift bro. Take care if her and be well, Stevo.........
 
Outstanding news, HK. What a relief it must be that your lady is doing better.

Please, HKUSP45C, have her be very, very careful with the Alieve. That stuff damn near killed my wife this past January.
She was taking it per doctor's orders. It caused over a dozen ulcers in her gastrointestinal system, putting her in intensive care in critical condition. She almost bled out.
A little delay on my part in calling the ambulance and she would not have made it.
 
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