I'm gonna have to respectfully disagree - after shooting over 300rds through my own P3AT, I'd have to describe its recoil as "emphatic." The recoil isn't hard enough to be painful per se, but when you combine the relatively stiff recoil with the small, narrow grip frame and the ultra-light weight, I find the gun tends to squirt up and out of my shooting hand. You don't notice it much in deliberate, aimed slow-fire, but it becomes a problem when you start doing rapid-fire drills. By contrast, shooting my S&W Airweight Centennial yields about the same felt recoil, but the Lasergrips I have on the gun are substantial enough that the gun doesn't shift in my hand at all.
I have, however, found that two things help to tame the P3AT:
- A rubber grip-sleeve, made by Hogue or Pachmayr, gives me enough added traction on the gun that I can rapid-fire the entire 6-rd magazine in under 3 seconds without any shifting or re-gripping. (Thanks to WhoKnowsWho for donating the Hogue to the cause!)
- The gun is actually MORE controllable when you shoot it one-handed; though it seems counter-intuitive, I find that a solid two-handed Weaver stance is actually TOO stable, so that when you fire the gun it keeps moving back while your hands stay still, and with almost every shot it feels like the gun is trying to squirt out of your hands. It also doesn't help that the grip frame is SO small, that your shooting hand completely engulfs the grip-frame; therefore, your support-hand can't actually touch the gun except for MAYBE the side of the thumb - the only thing your support-hand can do is to hold your shooting hand. By contrast, when you shoot the P3AT ONE-HANDED, your hand moves with the gun in recoil, and it does not shift within the shooting hand.
I think you will enjoy shooting your P32 more than you will enjoy shooting the P3AT, but I won't discommend the P3AT to you; aside from its nominally more effective caliber, you'll probably find that .380ACP reloads and Wolf practice ammo are significantly less expensive and more readily available than comparable .32ACP ammo.