I have dots on a couple carbines, a shotgun, and one handgun, my little .22 neos is wearing an inexpensive dot right now, and am learning to acquire and shoot with the dot on a pistol. I like that the dot does not move on the neos, since the slide is below the rail. With more expensive and hardened dots that probably is not an issue, but, I went less expensive to see if I liked it so this works for me for now.
Right now, I think Dots are great at the range, but don't see myself with a carry gun that wears one, maybe once I get better, we will see. I feel there are too many variables for me, electronics, battery, brightness, finding the dot, etc, i assume with practice and a more expensive dot, some of these go away, and I do agree as I am getting more practice in that finding the dot is getting easier - so that may just be training as stated above.
For SD I use irons currently, I practice point shooting (instinctive/reflexive) from the draw for short SD distances 7 yards or less and finding the sights if I have time and for the second shot, it is actually hard to explain for me, others can probably explain better, but, the first shot is made when the gun is aligned, and while I probably see the sights, I don't focus on them as much initially, that was how I was taught, get the first shot center mass instinctively and as quickly and accurately as possible.
I could see (I am not there yet) maybe using a dot in the future, and I am practicing since my eyes are getting worse due to age, but for now, my carry guns do not wear Red dots. Might be cuz I am older and learned to shoot with irons on my pistols and that is more comfortable for me, and I might just be set in my way and it is hard for me to change something I have been doing for a lot of years.
This is just what I do, not meant to tell you what you should do, that is up to you.
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