If you get off the gas early, you can slow with slight pressure on the brakes. This means less heating. By and large, the life of the pads will be extended. Compared to those who charge toward a red light and hit the brakes hard, you'll also save a bit of gasoline.
On my '85 Toyota 4WD PU, I finally needed front pads at 120,000 miles. On my '95 GMC 1500, I've put 25,000 miles on not-new pads and still have several thousand miles of wear left. I use the "slow down early, brake lightly" style.
And, yes, when possible be the first in line at a red light, but don't crowd the white stripe before the intersection. That gives you a bit of an edge if a car-jacking is attempted. It also lets you survey cross traffic better.
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