I wish there was something here sensible enough to respond to. Such jibberish is the dance of the desperate. You can parse definitions all that you want, the process remains what it is, like it or not. He did ask it in a straighforward manner devoid of any implication. He even stated that he was simply curious. That you perceive it as having implied "ulterior motives" and or as a "deception" is not something that he can be held accountable for in his question. That you do this suggests an emotional investment on your behalf- something that many exhibit when they anticipate the imminent demise of a belief that they are emotionally invested in. An admirable suggestion. However, the motivation underlying your suggestion becomes questionable when in that very suggestion you then accuse him of having an "ego-stake" in something that he has demonstrated no such intention. Subtle, but inflammatory accusations following a request to keep it "high road" make your intentions in making such a request seem very suspect. I think that the answer to this is evident if you take the time to read above what has been written.