Warning signs: Significant other and gun buying

[tinygnat219]

You know,

I haven't even started thinking about what my spouse would do with all my guns. Probably keep some, and sell off some others. I might save her the trouble and do something about that in my will.

The XD 45ACP shall go with me to the grave, so I can defend myself in that warm place below.

 

[Valkman]

I buy guns, she buys diamonds, everyone's happy. Heck she just got me a Mossberg 500 for X-Mas! Of course the present she bought herself was $3k and mine was $300 but I was happy and so was she (and the fact that I never had to go shoppng was a BIG plus!).

 

[thexrayboy]

I too have learned that jewelry does soothe the savage female. Not sure who has more money in personal toys but if I die I sure as heck hope she gets a good gun bible for values before just auctioning em off for peanuts.

 

[MrTwigg]

My wife wasn't interested in guns untill I started taking her shooting.
Now she has nicer guns than I do. She just said to me "We need a bigger safe."

I am a happy, happy man.

 

[Kalashnikov]

My philosophy has alwasy been this. My fiance is more important to me than anything, guns included. If I had to give them up for her, I would. But not if she asked. If she did, than she would show me that she didnt care about things that are important in my life.

 

[Danus ex]

While my SO only wants a few guns for herself (Browning Semi-Auto .22, Smith & Wesson 17, Ithaca 37, and a few more), she is extremely supportive of my gun buying habit.

Most often, she'll read about some social atrocity on the internet--usually something related to hyper-liberals, furries, or other fringey freaks--and exclaim "good GOD, you need to buy more guns!"

No problem!

 

[lee n. field]

I have an understanding with mine.

He buys computer stuff and gadgets. I buy firearms.

And whose purchases are still going to be worth anything in 20 years???????

That's why I'd rather spend money on gun related stuff, than computers (and I'm in the computer field).

 

[CajunBass]

Last year for Valentines Day, my wife gave me an XD-9.

I gave her a Ruger Mk II.

She want's a "Baby Glock" this year.

If she ever leaves me, I'm going with her.

 

[Tiger beetle]

I'm a newbie here, and fairly new to guns.
Coming from the other perspective, when my husband first got a concealed carry license and gun, I didn't know what to think of it but didn't totally mind because he was never careless with it and was eager to explain the reasons for it without being overly persuasive (I did not grow up around guns).

Fast forward several years, now I have a S&W 642 and my own concealed carry license. We go to the range on our days off together. And I understand why you men like to buy guns, although my husband's wish list is looking pretty costly. I guess to me it seems a lot like collecting cars, except that it is more affordable.

 

[Trope]

Trope: You bought some new shoes, didn't you?
Mrs. Trope: How'd you know?
Trope: Just a guess, 'Imelda'.
Mrs. Trope: <sarcastic>Ha. Ha.</sarcastic> Am I that predictable?
Trope: ...sometimes... I guess I need to build you a new set of shelves for all those shoes.
Mrs. Trope: You're not funny, mister...
Trope: Oh, by the way, I bought a new gun...

 

[Juna]

So anyway. If out of the blue, your significant other is understanding or supportive of your gun habit and offers no reason, red flags should go up.

Not a bad observation. However, if you wear them down over time (my strategy ) by taking them shooting, making guns commonplace around the house, making talking about guns commonplace, convincing her anti-gun family that guns are a normal part of everyday life, etc., then it's much less worrisome if they gradually start to come around.

After getting married, I caught on pretty quickly that when she's happy, I'm happy, and when she's unhappy, I'm unhappy. It's amazing how much smoother things go once you figure this out. It takes some people a really long time. Well... over time she's realized that it works both ways, and she's started slowly getting used to the idea of more firearms b/c she knows it makes me happy (plus, she's starting to like them and become pretty darn knowledgeable about them herself, too!). One day when I had a really bad day, she knew I needed a boost, so she told me to go to the range. That did the trick, and she knew it would! So that was a promising sign. She's slowly coming around.

The only issue is that her idea of a time line between purchases is MUCH different than mine. She thinks once I buy a gun that I'll be done for a few years before I buy another one ! Needless to say, I'm working on that! I got a rifle about a month ago, and I'm already planning for the next purchase. Money is tight, which is the ultimate limiting factor. If we were loaded, I think she'd care a whole lot less how many guns I buy or how often. Still waiting on that winning lotto ticket...