I'm probably too old and too old-school to contribute an opinion... but I don't usually let that stop me
IMHO, getting intimate with someone you don't know all that well probably isn't a really good idea. It may be fun; that doesn't make it smart.
If I were young and dating, I wouldn't mind if my
steady boyfriend carried all the time. I would be able to trust him because I knew him well enough to make that judgement.
On the other hand, I would totally freak if, on a first date with a recently-met individual, I discovered he had a gun.
The difference? I know the first guy isn't a psycho; I can't be sure of the second guy. (Qualification: If guy #2 had references, say, an old-fashioned introduction by a mutual friend, AND if he informed me in advance of his CCW habit, I'd probably be ok with it.)
I'm not sure this is an exact quote or a paraphrase (I googled what i could remember and found this) but I read this in the book "The Gift of Fear" about one major difference between men and women:
"At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them." It was in the chapter where the author cites statistics showing that most violence against women is from the men in their lives: fathers, brothers, boyfriends, husbands, other male relatives.
Most guys don't believe that. I believe it to be true on a subconscious level (I don't believe most women go into a first date wondering if they're going to be killed). But it might explain why a lot of women are uncomfortable with the idea of a guy they don't know well carrying a gun on a date.
Just an old lady's opinion...