JoeSlomo wrote:
I'm a big fan of the patented "raised hand" technique on the road.
Holding up of the hand with a look of either:
A. Yea, my mistake.
Or...
B. Yea, your mistake, no problem, go about your business.
Same here. If I am wrong, I try to express my "appology." That's just being decent. While rare that I make a mistake on the road, when I HAVE done this, it typically diffuses anything.
But I gotta say this. I have been, on occasion, probably been the cause of some "road rage." I can think of a fairly recent event. For it, I am completely unapologetic.
A couple weeks ago, my wife and I went out to eat. On the way home on a country highway, I start getting tailgated by one of those rice-burner hotrods. Because there was on-coming traffic, he couldn't pass me.
Now look.... the speed limit through here is 55 mph. I don't really drive fast anymore, but I typically stay at around 60-65 mph. On country highways at night, you REALLY don't want to be going too fast. Suicide deer LOVE to hang out in the bar-pits and throw themselves through the windshield of unsuspecting motorists. You BETTER be ready to react. I say this as a person who has experienced this 4 times in my life.
So...
Said tailgater continues to tailgate me. Oh, I COULD have pulled off the road for him so that he could pass. But I've learned that the source of most of my flat tires has been the shoulders of the roads around here. Hell, I actually got a flat after Katrina when I pulled over to fix ANOTHER flat. That was fun times. After about 11 flat tires, I am not hitting the shoulder unless someone is on fire.
So we are at an impasse.
Oncoming traffic is not going to let him pass anytime soon. I'm not going to end up changing a tire for his benefit, and neither am I going to drive 98 mph for his convinience. This guy is coming unglued. He is swerving all ofter the place and he decides that he should "motivate" me to drive faster by inching up more and more on my rear bumper.
Now, I learned something a while back that impacted me greatly. I was once tailgated by someone who would not back off if I sped up, slowed down, or ignored them. Finally, I gunned it and sped off to increase the gap between us. About the time I got to 68mph, the blue lights came on. Yep, I was being tailgated by a State Trooper, and I got a ticket for my efforts.
So, I don't speed up for tailgaters.
I found something better. I have come to realize that I am really not in that much of a hurry most of the time. I didn't have anywhere that I HAD to be. So, my basic rule is the closer you are to my rear bumper, the SLOWER we all go.
As I see it, it is kinda like how some housebreak a puppy. When you see them pee of the carpet, you rub their noses in it. For me the same goes for tailgaters. Now don't get me wrong. You can't just slow down and stay there. That just isn't right. After all, the puppy doesn't learn anything if you spend your day just rubbing his nose in his pee. That's just sadistic. No, you have to give them an opportunity to correct the behavior.
So, I drop down to about 40mph for a bit. I can literally see the smoke coming out of this guy's ears. But I don't stay at that speed too long. After a short period, I speed back up to 65mph. You'd think a guy would get the hint. But no. The entire time I am speeding back up, he is on my bumper. So, I rinse and repeat with similar results.
I really don't know is this experiment was successful. Before there was a break in traffic, we got to the next town and I got to see what this guy was in such a hurry that he would endanger others to accomplish. He pulls off and drives up into the bay of a CAR WASH. Yep, all of this was over needing to hurry up and wash his freakin' car.
I really don't get this tailgating this. It seems to be getting worse and worse.
I really don't care if you have performance brakes on your car and can stop on a dime. Your reaction time isn't going to be enough. Besides, I have a 4,000 pound truck. Mine ISN'T that good.
I really don't care if you have seen "Gone in 60 Seconds" 32 times. That does NOT give you "mad skilz" on the road.
I really don't care if you are a NASCAR fan. It isn't "drafting." It IS endangering others for your entertainment.
We didn't ask to be on your racetrack or part of your adolescent fantasy. We are just trying to get from point A to point B. If you think that you have the right to suck us into your Movie or NASCAR world, why don't I have the right to throw ball bearings out my window periodically? Seems like a good trade-off. (No, I am NOT going to do that.)
NO ONE needs to drive 14" from someone's bumper. If I can't see your headlights, you can't can't avoid hitting me if I have to react to something.
Can you tell that tailgating is a pet peeve of mine?
OK... rant off.
-- John