Wife just got into it, after a possible multiple intruder home invasion, that she thwarted by slamming the door and locking it quickly. She is scared around guns, won't go into that other than an ex.
She got a .38 special, since she can't rack any semi-autos. We're going to the range tomorrow so she may shoot it the first time. She tried many rentals, but settled on the .38 sp., as her first gun. She felt vulnerable without me, as I carry everywhere, even when I'm home. So there's the nudging she needed to become armed, and possibly not be a vicitim. The AR she has access to, but will not shoot it, after I let her try it at an outdoor range with several hundred yard (and up to 700 yard targets). OK I respect that, but argue with her the AR would be a most desirable SD weapon for all the right reasons. Nogo. It scares her. The important thing is she feels safer now, it's a nightstand gun, and she will never carry. She flatly refuses, so she's vulnerable in her car. Will work on that aspect some more.
Sorry for the tome, but I feel she isn't really committed to the whole concept of gun ownership. Won't practice dry fire drills, or tactical areas in case of multiple intruders. I get the impression she would rather it do the work on its own! At least it's there...
We compete at the range, so I don't know what the hangup is? Possibly bad memories.