Any of the Large Pistol primers will work for the 10mm. I use Winchester LP for my loads and they work just fine. I've got five handguns in this caliber, and they all work great with standard primers.
My favorite powders in this caliber are Blue Dot, AA-9 and HS-7. With 180 and 200 grain bullets, IMR 800X will give the fastest velocities, with the lowest pressures, but it meters like corn flakes. Unless you're willing to weigh each load, it's not worth the effort, in my opinion, though I have made up some loads with it which are impressive.
Hope this helps.
Fred