I'm not doubting your experiences, of course, but just to show how we're all different, the last time I shot a 1911 (with standard 230 grain .45 ACP loads) I deliberately paid close attention to how it recoiled in my hand and how fast I could get it back on target, and found that the muzzle flipped a lot more than I ever realized before and substantially more than my M&P40. Yes, the M&P40 is snappier (higher peak force), but its muzzle climbs less when I shoot it than when I shoot a 1911, and it seems to get back on target a bit more quickly for me, too.
Perhaps this is because I currently have a lot more experience with the M&P platform and .40 S&W than I do with the 1911 and .45 ACP (although .40 S&W has always just felt like a heavy 9mm to me), but whatever the reason that's how it works out for me personally.