If you are just interested in making holes in paper or things headed to the junk pile anyway, I suggest getting what's least expensive, and available, in today's market.
The 45ACP was designed for a 230g RN bullet, so you can't go "wrong" with that. There used to be some heavier stuff out there, and there's always the lighter bullets as well. We used to cast, load and sell hundred of thousands 200g SWC yearly at the range years ago. Was our 2nd best seller (behind 38sp). We used 231 for powder and got about 800fps out them, which seemed to cycle everything and made for an enjoyable shoot. Very few complaints about those. Actually, only 9mm had complaints... and eventually we fixed that. But that's another story.
Let me go a step further. One thing to look at is slide velocity. You'll have to run the numbers, but the principle of Conservation of Momentum applies. That is, the bullet weight, the charge weight, half the recoil spring weight x the velocity of the bullet will equal the velocity of the slide + barrel x their weight.
Momentum is simply mass (weight, here on earth) x velocity. So run the numbers for the momentum of a 230 grain bullet at 860fps, and try to keep the momentum of lighter bullets at, or perhaps slightly under, that figure, and you'll do ok as far as cycling, wear, overall shooting is concerned. When I mentioned spring weight, I'm speaking about its physical weight, not its "stiffness". Light bullets leave the barrel sooner (faster bullet) so the effect is for lighter bullets to shoot lower by a bit, but usually someone who's reloading has the mental ability to apply compensation...
Within a fairly wide range of limits, the 45acp is actually pretty forgiving, if the pistol is more or less stock. Bullseye shooters, race gun shooters have specialized weapons, and that calls for specialized loads. You didn't really specify.