Already picked one, huh?
Well, I'm not going to recommend one or the other to you, even after you already picked one. Your age and posted interested in 'guns' seems to imply that you've been out and around the block a time or two.
What do you think you'd like to shoot? How's it turned out so far?
It's just handgun.
Sounds like you've already got a couple you like in a couple of other acceptable 'proven' defensive handgun calibers, so are you just indulging in being able to expand your collection? Hard to quibble with that.
FWIW, while I was originally a rather staunch proponent of the 'best' defensive handgun calibers being .357 magnum & .45 ACP when I was younger, I find I've also collected a number of 9mm & .40 S&W 'working' (off-duty) weapons in my safe. Got 4 of each last time I looked, and 8 chambered in .45 ACP. Getting ready to order another .45, too, this time a M&P 45. Like I need another one.
Get what you like, since you're of an age and situation where you don't seem to be required to like what you get handed to you.
I will say that when all is said and done, I still find it consistently easier to accurately and controllably shoot the 9mm pistols compared to the .40 S&W pistols.
Maybe that's why I prefer to carry one or another little 9mm pistol on my own time ... when I'm not carrying one or another of my S&W 5-shot .38's, that is ...
Might be more in the way of splitting hairs, at times, but there's been more than a few times when the Timer told me that I was shooting just a mite slower with one or another .40 S&W pistol than I'd done with a similar 9mm pistol, especially when engaging multiple targets while moving, or shooting unsupported around cover, especially using my 'weak hand'.
Now, I actually enjoy shooting 9mm, .45 ACP, .38 Special, .357 Magnum, .45 Colt & .44 Magnum ... but I consider shooting .40 S&W as a more or less 'work-related' task. I just don't enjoy it as much as I do when shooting other pistols chambered in other calibers, especially pistols with lightweight polymer frames.
Makes me wonder why I own 4 of them ... and came awfully close to ordering a M&P 40 Compact.
Dunno. Must be because I got really good deals on them as an armorer.
Bottom line, the .40 S&W has shown itself to be an 'effective' defensive handgun cartridge. Doesn't mean everyone will necessarily enjoy owning & shooting one, though.
Pick what you like. Apparently, I can't even decide which is 'better' for myself ...