AmbulanceDriver
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Ok. I'm in need of some assistance here from the kind folks of THR. My girlfriend has an admittedly unreasonable fear of firearms. This is a source of some frustration on my part, but it also frustrates her. I've spoken to her about firearms, and shared with her that one of the reasons I'd like her to start shooting is that it would give us another activity to do together, instead of my taking time to go to the range without her. She has stated that this is something that she would like to do, except that she is terrified of firearms. Literally. Here's an example of a recent encounter:
Sitting at home one evening, decided to try to introduce her to the very basic fundamentals (4 rules, sight picture, the different parts/types of firearms). Went to the other room, decided to start with an air gun to get her familiar with them without the fear associated with a real firearm. Went through the basics using the air gun, no problems. She was a little apprehensive about handling the air gun, but ended up taking it, establishing a sight picture, etc. Even seemed fairly comfortable with it. So far so good.
So I decided to take it to the next step. Went back, got my little .22 pistol out. She was fine with me handling it, showing her the differences regarding the safety mechanisms, the magazine, all the different parts, etc. Again re-emphasized the 4 rules. However, she absolutely flat out refused to touch it. She wouldn't even handle the magazine (separate from the pistol) without quite a bit of prompting. But as far as touching a real firearm, it was no-go. After I had put everything back away, she talked to me about it. She recognized that it was a baseless fear. Even though she'd had one semi-close encounter with a negligent discharge by her neighbor (round went over their berm, through the kitchen window, lodged in a cabinet) she said that it wasn't even because of that incident that she was so scared. She just stated that it was almost like I was asking her to handle a tarantula when I asked her to hold the gun. She herself states that it's a baseless, irrational fear, but that it's there nonetheless.
Pax, I've read through your website, and I'm encouraging her to do the same. I'm definitely willing to be patient with this. I'm going to ask her to come to the range with me (indoor range, ballistic glass between the range and the observation area, so it's pretty quiet) and just watch. Just so she has another positive exposure to firearm use. She has no problem with my concealed handgun license, nor with my growing collection. I'm aware that it may be a situation where she never is able to move past this fear. But I hope that with patience, and repeated positive exposures to firearms, she may eventually come around. Any suggestions from THR members, especially those who are firearms instructors, would be greatly appreciated.... Thanks.
Sitting at home one evening, decided to try to introduce her to the very basic fundamentals (4 rules, sight picture, the different parts/types of firearms). Went to the other room, decided to start with an air gun to get her familiar with them without the fear associated with a real firearm. Went through the basics using the air gun, no problems. She was a little apprehensive about handling the air gun, but ended up taking it, establishing a sight picture, etc. Even seemed fairly comfortable with it. So far so good.
So I decided to take it to the next step. Went back, got my little .22 pistol out. She was fine with me handling it, showing her the differences regarding the safety mechanisms, the magazine, all the different parts, etc. Again re-emphasized the 4 rules. However, she absolutely flat out refused to touch it. She wouldn't even handle the magazine (separate from the pistol) without quite a bit of prompting. But as far as touching a real firearm, it was no-go. After I had put everything back away, she talked to me about it. She recognized that it was a baseless fear. Even though she'd had one semi-close encounter with a negligent discharge by her neighbor (round went over their berm, through the kitchen window, lodged in a cabinet) she said that it wasn't even because of that incident that she was so scared. She just stated that it was almost like I was asking her to handle a tarantula when I asked her to hold the gun. She herself states that it's a baseless, irrational fear, but that it's there nonetheless.
Pax, I've read through your website, and I'm encouraging her to do the same. I'm definitely willing to be patient with this. I'm going to ask her to come to the range with me (indoor range, ballistic glass between the range and the observation area, so it's pretty quiet) and just watch. Just so she has another positive exposure to firearm use. She has no problem with my concealed handgun license, nor with my growing collection. I'm aware that it may be a situation where she never is able to move past this fear. But I hope that with patience, and repeated positive exposures to firearms, she may eventually come around. Any suggestions from THR members, especially those who are firearms instructors, would be greatly appreciated.... Thanks.