Hello High Roadsters.
After reading many of your posts, I've really come to respect your opinions on many an issue. If you would, please share your opinions on this personal matter:
As the title states, my brother-in-law pointed a gun to his head. The other night, he and my sister (newlyweds) were arguing, and my BIL got so frustrated he pointed his Sig at his temple. By the time I arrived, my sister had already convinced him to put down the gun. He left the house moments before I arrived, half to drive off his anger and half to avoid the awkwardness of facing me. Being the responsible gun nut in the family, I was asked to take possession of the gun. Which I did.
I'm really conflicted about the whole thing. First and foremost, I think taking the gun that night was the right thing to do. It was an emotionally volatile situation, and taking the gun out of the equation was a no-brainer. Thing is, it never should have been introduced as part of the equation in the first place. Do his actions, then, dictate that I never return the gun?
My non-professional analysis is that he did it purely out of frustration. I am certain he meant no harm to himself or to my sister by it. He was trying to reach out to her, to communicate with her on some common ground, but she wouldn't budge an inch from the saddle of her high horse. Still, waving a gun around in desperation, intent or no, is HUGELY irresponsible. There are better ways to get your point across, I'm sure.
In his defense, he agreed to surrender the gun not because he felt he needed to, or because he thought it was the right or responsible thing to do, but because he again wanted to reach out to my sister. He conceded the gun to say, "Here, I'll give you this. I don't agree with it, but I'll do it anyways because I love you. Now, will you at least listen to what I have to say?"
She finally acknowledged and accepted his concession, and in turn, she promised to listen more and to be less self-centered.
Sigh....
So, do I have the right to take away the only firearm in their household? Or is my BIL potentially more dangerous than some burglar or home invader?
Do I return the firearm once things calm down? If so, when? Does my BIL have to re-earn our trust in him to get his own gun back?
Or do I simply rationalize a way to keep the Sig 228?
After reading many of your posts, I've really come to respect your opinions on many an issue. If you would, please share your opinions on this personal matter:
As the title states, my brother-in-law pointed a gun to his head. The other night, he and my sister (newlyweds) were arguing, and my BIL got so frustrated he pointed his Sig at his temple. By the time I arrived, my sister had already convinced him to put down the gun. He left the house moments before I arrived, half to drive off his anger and half to avoid the awkwardness of facing me. Being the responsible gun nut in the family, I was asked to take possession of the gun. Which I did.
I'm really conflicted about the whole thing. First and foremost, I think taking the gun that night was the right thing to do. It was an emotionally volatile situation, and taking the gun out of the equation was a no-brainer. Thing is, it never should have been introduced as part of the equation in the first place. Do his actions, then, dictate that I never return the gun?
My non-professional analysis is that he did it purely out of frustration. I am certain he meant no harm to himself or to my sister by it. He was trying to reach out to her, to communicate with her on some common ground, but she wouldn't budge an inch from the saddle of her high horse. Still, waving a gun around in desperation, intent or no, is HUGELY irresponsible. There are better ways to get your point across, I'm sure.
In his defense, he agreed to surrender the gun not because he felt he needed to, or because he thought it was the right or responsible thing to do, but because he again wanted to reach out to my sister. He conceded the gun to say, "Here, I'll give you this. I don't agree with it, but I'll do it anyways because I love you. Now, will you at least listen to what I have to say?"
She finally acknowledged and accepted his concession, and in turn, she promised to listen more and to be less self-centered.
Sigh....
So, do I have the right to take away the only firearm in their household? Or is my BIL potentially more dangerous than some burglar or home invader?
Do I return the firearm once things calm down? If so, when? Does my BIL have to re-earn our trust in him to get his own gun back?
Or do I simply rationalize a way to keep the Sig 228?