bainter1212
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Hi folks,
I have been going over and over some personal rules of conduct since getting my permit in February.
One overriding theme that seems to present itself again and again in my thoughts is a doctrine of "conflict avoidance".
I am sure the members here on THR run the gamut when it comes to our participation in conflicts with other citizens currently and in the past. Some of us (like myself) will have spent most of our lives avoiding fights, brawls, etc whenever possible. I am sure some of us here spent a considerable portion of our lives perfecting our brawling or barfighting skills and generally never backing away from a fight.
I have been in a few fights in my life......all of which were forced upon me (ie I couldn't get away). These were non-lethal fistfights which ended up with me beaten and bloody (but fine otherwise). Luckily no threat to my life has reared its head. As I have aged I have learned even better how to avoid these situations.
That being said, before I started carrying there might have been a few hypothetical situations in which I may have voluntarily engaged in a fistfight. For instance, if somebody harassed or insulted my wife in public may have led me into a fight.
However .......
Now that I carry, this thought process has changed considerably. I now feel that if AT ALL possible, I should get my family away from a bad situation, even if it looks to everyone around me that I might be a "wimp" or a "wuss".
The Zimmerman situation has taught me that carrying a gun means that any situation that would have formerly been "just a fistfight" can quickly turn into a life or death situation. It is a sobering thought and a very heavy reaponsibility.
I have gone over this new personal doctrine with my wife and she is understanding (luckily she is with me for my brains not my brawn )
There are some women out there who might require a man to engage in a fight even if not absolutely necessary, for "machismo", and IMO this can put a CCW holder in a dangerous position.
My wife understands that retreating to live another day is of paramount importance. The minute I engage in a needless conflict is the minute I leave my family possibly unprotected.
What say you all? Any brawlers in here who have trouble walking away from a challenge?
Mods: feel free to move if this is not in the correct forum.
I have been going over and over some personal rules of conduct since getting my permit in February.
One overriding theme that seems to present itself again and again in my thoughts is a doctrine of "conflict avoidance".
I am sure the members here on THR run the gamut when it comes to our participation in conflicts with other citizens currently and in the past. Some of us (like myself) will have spent most of our lives avoiding fights, brawls, etc whenever possible. I am sure some of us here spent a considerable portion of our lives perfecting our brawling or barfighting skills and generally never backing away from a fight.
I have been in a few fights in my life......all of which were forced upon me (ie I couldn't get away). These were non-lethal fistfights which ended up with me beaten and bloody (but fine otherwise). Luckily no threat to my life has reared its head. As I have aged I have learned even better how to avoid these situations.
That being said, before I started carrying there might have been a few hypothetical situations in which I may have voluntarily engaged in a fistfight. For instance, if somebody harassed or insulted my wife in public may have led me into a fight.
However .......
Now that I carry, this thought process has changed considerably. I now feel that if AT ALL possible, I should get my family away from a bad situation, even if it looks to everyone around me that I might be a "wimp" or a "wuss".
The Zimmerman situation has taught me that carrying a gun means that any situation that would have formerly been "just a fistfight" can quickly turn into a life or death situation. It is a sobering thought and a very heavy reaponsibility.
I have gone over this new personal doctrine with my wife and she is understanding (luckily she is with me for my brains not my brawn )
There are some women out there who might require a man to engage in a fight even if not absolutely necessary, for "machismo", and IMO this can put a CCW holder in a dangerous position.
My wife understands that retreating to live another day is of paramount importance. The minute I engage in a needless conflict is the minute I leave my family possibly unprotected.
What say you all? Any brawlers in here who have trouble walking away from a challenge?
Mods: feel free to move if this is not in the correct forum.