The M16 and its military variants were designed and re-designed for use by troops. AR15 is now an unofficial designation for a firearm that resembles and shares many parts with the M16. There are, however, no fully functional civilian counterparts to M203, M240, M249, M2 BMG, GAU 8, 20mm Oerlikon, 40mm Bofors, 16" 75 cal naval rifles, 105 and 155 field pieces, Javelins and a host of other armament so yes, the OP's friend's assertion was accurate. Military armament is dramatically better at destruction.
The belief that an AR15 is easily converted to select fire ignores the generally higher spec for GI guns, and the high shelf in many lower receivers that require milling before a rare registered drop-in auto sear can be installed. The question was confusing but by now has been hashed and rehashed.