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The beginning of my sophomore year in college I was charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon, a second degree felony which carried a maximum punishment of 20 years in prison.
It was a clear case of self-defense, I used a knife, it was at fast food restaurant, there were multiple attackers. I won't go into the details of the incident because there will inevitably be a lot of discussion and speculation about the situation. I don't have the energy or desire to relive the incident to answer any of the follow-up questions.
This thread is mainly about the what I endured in the aftermath. The reason I post this is to help inform those who are ready to defend their lives and the lives of their loved ones what may happen after the fact.
Before the incident, I had many friends, I was very outgoing, and was stellar academically. I had never been in trouble with the law before, I didn't do drugs, and I was a health nut. I had dreamed about a career in law enforcement, military (was in ROTC), and firefighting. I was in the application process for the Marine Officer Training Corps.
Immediately after the incident news spread like wildfire because it was front page in many local newspapers and the social networking phenomenon. Everybody back home (my old highschool classmates) and everyone I had met in college knew about it. The articles about the incident derived from the police report, and had the angle from my attackers. I was the bad guy, I was the one who snapped and went crazy on innocent bystanders.
No one wanted to talk to me, because they had no idea what to say or what to believe. The few friends who were brave enough to confront me to figure out the truth for themselves were in shock and rallied for my cause. It didn't help too much because society takes new articles as fact. I see it all too common in thread on THR where posters think that by dissecting the article they can figure out what exactly happened.
School. Was I really expected to study for a quiz in this class while reading a chapter for that class after being released from jail and facing hard time? Could I really think about Statistics and the Market Climate in a time like this? I went from being a B+ student to a D- student. Doing only enough to keep my academic career viable after I weathered this storm.
I stopped eating the healthy chicken breasts, brown rice, and leafy greens I used to prepare for myself. I only ate protein bars out of necessity when I became starved. I lost a lot of weight.
The incident was the only thing I could think about. It replayed in my head over and over again until I fell asleep. I constantly had nightmares. They were not about my attackers. My nightmares were about me turning into this monster that everyone thought I was. I would was from these in cold sweats several times a night. When I was lucky enough not to have one, I would wake up feeling pretty good but within a few seconds the darkest cloud in the world would once again hover over my head.
I had no one to talk to. I could only talk to myself and the only pertinent subject what something of misery and pessimism. What would life be like as a convicted felon who served a few years in prison? My student loans would have matured into a crippling financial bind. No college degree to get a career to pay it back, not even a good shot at landing a job at a fast food restaurant! I will be rejected from renting anywhere to live. Will my remaining friends still be around and remember me after a few years? The Marine Officer Training Corps told me to shove off. There was no chance in hell I'd be selected.
My lawyer cost $15k. He was the best in my town. He was worth it. I made $9 an hour. My boss took pity on me and gave me 60 hours a week. Because of this I barely went to class. This was good for me because it was something to do. I stayed enrolled due to the financial aid i received. My lawyer took pity on me and let me do installments. I sold anything of value I had. My guns/ammo/electronics....everything. All I had was a TV and a mattress on the floor. My only expenses were the two packs of cigarettes I ended up smoking a day. I would rather have cigarettes then food during that time.
This lasted TWO years. In those two years I did NOTHING. I was afraid to drive a car and get a ticket, I was afraid of everything. I was afraid of fast food restaurants. I was afraid of anyone who looked at me, whether they were a past acquaintance that I knew before the incident or a random person that looked like one of my attackers (there were multiple). I was afraid of being recognized and shunned from society so I shunned myself. I was so disappointed in my beloved United States of America. It had ruined my life. I had just turned 19. At 19 you're just starting to learn about the world and begin a new chapter in life. This was a hard lesson.
My planned chapter was to grow up, get my degrees, become a valuable member of society. In my reality, I became a homeless man. No one would have me. I COULD NOT PARTICIPATE IN SOCIETY. How can I be involved in a conversation about....the weather...or sports...when I was facing a sort of death?
I considered suicide many times. I even got a life insurance policy with my half brother as my benefactor (he was 5 at the time). I had planned an accidental death so the policy would pay out. My parents were back in my hometown, they spoke to me maybe once a month. I grew up tough, I was expected to be tough. No one knew what I was going through and I couldn't blame them. I wrote a 20 page memoir, my goodbyes, my life, my regrets. I deleted it because of the chance that insurance wouldn't pay out.
Then it came. As quickly as the incident happened, it was absolved. My lawyer on the other line "We finally were able to secure the 911 tapes from that night, there was a call that identified you as the victim and them as the attackers, your charges are dropped."
That was last summer. Today I am back to being a B+ student, I have started my own Real Estate Company. I live in a nice house that I share with a great girlfriend. I have friends. I grew up pretty darn fast this way because I can truly appreciate life in society, but I don't recommend it to anyone.
Life happens. It happens differently to everyone. I have to move on. Being able to share this with you guys was the next big step for me.
Stay safe.
It was a clear case of self-defense, I used a knife, it was at fast food restaurant, there were multiple attackers. I won't go into the details of the incident because there will inevitably be a lot of discussion and speculation about the situation. I don't have the energy or desire to relive the incident to answer any of the follow-up questions.
This thread is mainly about the what I endured in the aftermath. The reason I post this is to help inform those who are ready to defend their lives and the lives of their loved ones what may happen after the fact.
Before the incident, I had many friends, I was very outgoing, and was stellar academically. I had never been in trouble with the law before, I didn't do drugs, and I was a health nut. I had dreamed about a career in law enforcement, military (was in ROTC), and firefighting. I was in the application process for the Marine Officer Training Corps.
Immediately after the incident news spread like wildfire because it was front page in many local newspapers and the social networking phenomenon. Everybody back home (my old highschool classmates) and everyone I had met in college knew about it. The articles about the incident derived from the police report, and had the angle from my attackers. I was the bad guy, I was the one who snapped and went crazy on innocent bystanders.
No one wanted to talk to me, because they had no idea what to say or what to believe. The few friends who were brave enough to confront me to figure out the truth for themselves were in shock and rallied for my cause. It didn't help too much because society takes new articles as fact. I see it all too common in thread on THR where posters think that by dissecting the article they can figure out what exactly happened.
School. Was I really expected to study for a quiz in this class while reading a chapter for that class after being released from jail and facing hard time? Could I really think about Statistics and the Market Climate in a time like this? I went from being a B+ student to a D- student. Doing only enough to keep my academic career viable after I weathered this storm.
I stopped eating the healthy chicken breasts, brown rice, and leafy greens I used to prepare for myself. I only ate protein bars out of necessity when I became starved. I lost a lot of weight.
The incident was the only thing I could think about. It replayed in my head over and over again until I fell asleep. I constantly had nightmares. They were not about my attackers. My nightmares were about me turning into this monster that everyone thought I was. I would was from these in cold sweats several times a night. When I was lucky enough not to have one, I would wake up feeling pretty good but within a few seconds the darkest cloud in the world would once again hover over my head.
I had no one to talk to. I could only talk to myself and the only pertinent subject what something of misery and pessimism. What would life be like as a convicted felon who served a few years in prison? My student loans would have matured into a crippling financial bind. No college degree to get a career to pay it back, not even a good shot at landing a job at a fast food restaurant! I will be rejected from renting anywhere to live. Will my remaining friends still be around and remember me after a few years? The Marine Officer Training Corps told me to shove off. There was no chance in hell I'd be selected.
My lawyer cost $15k. He was the best in my town. He was worth it. I made $9 an hour. My boss took pity on me and gave me 60 hours a week. Because of this I barely went to class. This was good for me because it was something to do. I stayed enrolled due to the financial aid i received. My lawyer took pity on me and let me do installments. I sold anything of value I had. My guns/ammo/electronics....everything. All I had was a TV and a mattress on the floor. My only expenses were the two packs of cigarettes I ended up smoking a day. I would rather have cigarettes then food during that time.
This lasted TWO years. In those two years I did NOTHING. I was afraid to drive a car and get a ticket, I was afraid of everything. I was afraid of fast food restaurants. I was afraid of anyone who looked at me, whether they were a past acquaintance that I knew before the incident or a random person that looked like one of my attackers (there were multiple). I was afraid of being recognized and shunned from society so I shunned myself. I was so disappointed in my beloved United States of America. It had ruined my life. I had just turned 19. At 19 you're just starting to learn about the world and begin a new chapter in life. This was a hard lesson.
My planned chapter was to grow up, get my degrees, become a valuable member of society. In my reality, I became a homeless man. No one would have me. I COULD NOT PARTICIPATE IN SOCIETY. How can I be involved in a conversation about....the weather...or sports...when I was facing a sort of death?
I considered suicide many times. I even got a life insurance policy with my half brother as my benefactor (he was 5 at the time). I had planned an accidental death so the policy would pay out. My parents were back in my hometown, they spoke to me maybe once a month. I grew up tough, I was expected to be tough. No one knew what I was going through and I couldn't blame them. I wrote a 20 page memoir, my goodbyes, my life, my regrets. I deleted it because of the chance that insurance wouldn't pay out.
Then it came. As quickly as the incident happened, it was absolved. My lawyer on the other line "We finally were able to secure the 911 tapes from that night, there was a call that identified you as the victim and them as the attackers, your charges are dropped."
That was last summer. Today I am back to being a B+ student, I have started my own Real Estate Company. I live in a nice house that I share with a great girlfriend. I have friends. I grew up pretty darn fast this way because I can truly appreciate life in society, but I don't recommend it to anyone.
Life happens. It happens differently to everyone. I have to move on. Being able to share this with you guys was the next big step for me.
Stay safe.