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So, I suscribe to a list of a bunch of local moms. Most of them are hyper-liberal (I believe the word "granola" may apply) and honestly, I'm increasingly on the edge and not interested in maintaining close ties because the over-the-top liberalism is really overshadowing the things useful in the group.

MI is considering allowing limited concealed weapons in schools. Several women on this group are freaked about this. I have composed a response, quoting relevant comments and responding. I'd sure appreciate comments and suggestions before posting to the group. Essentially, with this message I'll be "coming out" as the "gun-totin' redneck" that I am, underneath that nice suburban mom/law student facade. Anyway, here it be:
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"Just wondering what others' thoughts are on this...."

Since you asked...

"I feel they are trying to cut costs by allowing teachers to carry weapons, rather than hiring a certified individual. Further, I'm not sure that this is teaching our children to solve their problems without violence"

I'm confused. Should we be teaching kid that violence is bad, or that violence is bad unless you are a security guard/police officer?

I personally don't feel that carrying a concealed weapon is an act of violence.

"if our kids see them with guns (or know that they have them)"

Concealed weapons means that the kids don't see the guns, or know which teachers have them or when.

"Teachers are supposed to be role models...won't it teach them that its ok to solve their problems this way?

I sure hope so. I hope my daughter knows that defending herself, or allowing others to defend her safety is ok.

"I dont think I'd feel safer if it were locked away though. "

I wouldn't either. If it's locked away it can't be used when needed.

"I wonder if this is mainly going to happen in high crime school districts
where teacher's are at great risk? "

I hope it is widespread. Columbine High and Virginia Tech were not "high risk" schools. In both of those schools, concealed weapons carried by staff would have save lives.

"Even if those are the only schools that used this, those are also the schools where the gun is more likely to be taken from the teacher in the first place. Many of those places have metal detectors and such because students are such a threat to begin with. All it takes is a couple students to tackle a teacher and now they have the gun and the teacher doesn't. "

Very unlikely scenario. Students wouldn't know which teachers were carrying and they wouldn't know how they were carrying. A concealed weapon is not easily grabbed.

"One person (if we presume the metal detectors
are 100% effective) brings a gun into the mix. "

That is a very dangerous assumption, and although I don't have stats, others have commented that it is not true: lots of guns do get by metal detectors.

"I hate the term "peacemaker" when applied to a bigger badder
weapon"

Non-sequiter.

"A wise person can make
peace as easily with his body and voice as he can with a baton, knife,
or gun."

That is very true. It is also true that an unarmed person can get very dead by relying on his body and voice.

"Guns are
only the solution if you're watching a Hollywood action flick."

Or, say a student at Columbine High or Virginia Tech.

Now, I'm far, far from a school-shooting alarmist, but I don't see the point in disarming large groups of people congregated into a small area. It invites predators.

"is there anything to
prevent unstable employees from obtaining a CCP?"

The questions on the CPL application that deal with mental illness and the follow-up period of investigation.

" I've seen
enough teachers with poor judgment in non adrenaline/cortisol charged
situations that I'd be very concerned about their potential actions in
an emotionally charged situation with weapons in play."

Ditto police officers. But, sadly, the worst judgement and behavior tends to exhibited by criminals. The safest response to armed criminals is armed defenders. And anyone who has the skill and judgement to operate a weapon is a potential defender.

"Now imagine a school where the metal detectors have successfully kept
out all guns. In such a school if you arm the staff, you've just
introduced guns that can be stolen by the students and used against
their peers and staff. How pointless is that?"

I'm imagining, but it's requiring my imagination to work pretty hard. There seems to be a consensus that it doesn't work that way.

It is quite difficult to steal a concealed handgun.

"I think this is just crappy legislation designed to make the public
feel safe about their schools."

It's working. Or it will, if it gets passed and implemented. I hope there is disclosure of who carries, so that I can try to make sure that my daughter ends up in a classroom with a gun.

We have no problem with presidents and governors and even high-level business people having armed bodyguards. I accord my own child no less care and respect.

"The truth is any school where arming
staff is considered a reasonable response to safety concerns has far
deeper problems than can be addressed by arming staff."

It is not a function of any one school but of society in general. And not even society today. It is not a good idea to have lots of unarmed people concentrated in a small area, ripe for victimization. Just ask my ancestors in the ghettos of Eastern Europe. Except of course, that most of them are dead.

"Are any among us naive enough to believe a school district
that would allow guns in to increase security is willing to do the
deep work needed to make the schools safe environments where children
can thrive and learn?"

Guess so. :)

Any school that respects my child's safety and its teachers' judgement and training enough to take the step of implementing a concealed carry program is absolutely a school that respects individuals and their right to live safely.

In my book that beats the heck out of requiring that my child be completely vulnerable to any criminal who gains entry to her school simply because many people find guns distasteful.
 
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I think you should probably explain a little more about the process of obtaining a concealed carry permit and what a person goes through in order to be "vetted."

For instance, explaining that in order to obtain a CCP a person has to go through an extensive background check and a training course to be approved, etc, would help them understand that a person who obtains a CCP is not very likely to be a criminal or a lunatic, and that they ARE trained in the use of their firearm.
 
"A wise person can make
peace as easily with his body and voice as he can with a baton, knife,
or gun."

That is very true. It is also true that an unarmed person can get very dead by relying on his body and voice.

I'd suggest changing the fragment in bold to something like "relying on just his body and voice." And/or adding something like "...and when the body and voice fails to do the job, then what? Having the choice of a valid CCP is only adding to the tools a person can use, not becoming the only option available."

"Guns are
only the solution if you're watching a Hollywood action flick."

Adding some links to articles that show the average person defending themselves would be a good thing here. Especially ones where no shots were fired. This should be easy since there are a lot of examples out there.

"Now imagine a school where the metal detectors have successfully kept
out all guns. In such a school if you arm the staff, you've just
introduced guns that can be stolen by the students and used against
their peers and staff. How pointless is that?"

"If it's so easy to take a firearm away, can't the teachers just take it back?"
Then put the onus on them to come up with real-life examples of weapons taken away from people, then compare it to your list of links of successful uses of firearms in self-defense situations. I'm betting your list would be longer.

I'm imagining, but it's requiring my imagination to work pretty hard. There seems to be a consensus that it doesn't work that way.

What consensus? Just saying it doesn't really prove/disprove anything.I agree with the statement, but I'm not the one that needs convincing.

I hope there is disclosure of who carries, so that I can try to make sure that my daughter ends up in a classroom with a gun.

This would defeat the purpose of having the firearms concealed, and contradicts this earlier statement of yours:

Students wouldn't know which teachers were carrying and they wouldn't know how they were carrying. A concealed weapon is not easily grabbed.

I also agree with explaining the process of getting a CHL (CCP, whatever it is in your state) a bit more.


Ok, that's long enough. Just remember, you asked for it. :D
 
Keep your response simple so it will be read. How about:

There is *never* going to be a cop for every classroom

There are always going to be teachers all around the school. If some of them are armed, the odds are *much* better that an armed teacher will be in the right place at the right time to prevent a tragedy.

If some bad guy student or outsider started shooting up YOUR kid's school, wouldn't you want someone already on-site who could stop the killer and save your kid's life?

Allowing qualified teachers to be armed gives the best chance of that happening.
 
I would be amazed if you do not get banned from the "mom's group" if you send this to them. You are "obviously a total nut case and a very violent person." Your children should be taken away from you for they are obviously in grave danger of growing up thinking that guns are ok. [sarcasm mode=off]

I agree that links to articles would be a great addition to this text. Maybe the "gun myths debunked" article would be a good one.

My personal opinion is that you will end up doing this: :banghead: :fire: and maybe this when you read their replies :cuss:

Good luck and keep us posted on how this turns out. (I would love to see teachers in Memphis carry but the city fathers and school board and NEA are all a bunch of libs, so it will not happen anytime soon.)
 
Rather than responding point by point with reason, which will go over like a lead balloon in a Mom's forum (sorry to be sexist, but it's true), I'd go with the following one-line soundbite:

If I can't trust a teacher with something simple like a gun then I sure can't trust her with my child.
 
I would also put forward that I would be more concerned about the teachers that can't pass the requirements to obtain a CCP, and why. Can't shoot straight, no problem. Flunked the criminal background check, why, and should they be a teacher?

If I can't trust a teacher with something simple like a gun then I sure can't trust her with my child.
I have heard the statement, "I don't want some teacher getting mad at my child and shooting them." so many times it's laughable. Let me get this straight, you are concerned that your child's teacher(s) is/are so unstable that misbehavior could invoke an act of murder but you are fine with them having your child for 7+ hours a day?
 
Is Dr. Michael Brown still around with his group "Doctors for Sensible Gun Laws"? IIRC, he had some valid arguments (pro and con) back in 2001 or so.

One could point to Beslan, but it would be ignored. As would discussion of arming Israeli school staff post PLO attacks.

Or, one could take the Low Road (please don't) and allow that you agree with those mothers who feel it is far far better for innocent school children to die at the hands of madmen or their teachers to die while protecting them while unarmed (see Columbine, William "Dave" Sanders and VT, Liviu Librescu... names of unarmed teachers who died while protecting their students... sadly) rather than see even one child/student live as a result of some legal, law-abiding, thoroughly background checked/vetted educator who is also trained and certified to legally, lawfully carry a concealed weapon which MIGHT be used to deter the slaughter of innocents (or is it innocence?)... which is sort of twisting their words or ideas around since we all know that Mom's really only want peace and love, devotion, safety, etc for their/our children.

Our society/culture has now evolved to accept the thin skin/veneer of civilization we wear, but I truly hope that the "Mother-Grizzly-protecting-her-cubs-at-all-costs" syndrome has not devolved totally out of the female half of our species. For a society where both of the genders bear that attitude is one heck of a force with which to reckon.
 
Now imagine a school where the metal detectors have successfully kept out all guns.
I keep hearing John Lennon :rolleyes:

Besides the insulting implication that everyone who walks into a school should be treated like a criminal, metal detectors aren't the answer. Their use in airport security, for instance, is only the most visible part of a large and comprehensive security strategy. Another, non-visible part, is lots of armed people, most of them carrying concealed. No one seems concerned about some wacko stealing their weapons. Besides, even after the gold-plated post-9/11 security now in place, airport screening still fails to detect guns with disturbing regularity.

There are also various kinds of weapons, guns included, that will pass through metal detectors undetected.

Besides metal detectors you'll need x-ray machines to examine backpacks, pocketbooks, and briefcases. They'll require maintenance, full-time staffing, and still more armed security to be effective (suppose a disturbed individual runs through the metal detectors with a gun and starts shooting. Then what?). Surely your school taxes are too low :rolleyes: Allowing CCW costs exactly nothing.

As far as CCW in schools, ask your fellow Moms why Oregon loves its children more than Michigan. I think Utah has similar legislation.
 
As has been pointed out here many times, if you choose to take on the responsibility of carrying, you need not only the weapon but the will to use it. I don't think it will be easy to find many teachers willing to make the decision to plug one of their students in the split-second they have to make the choice.
 
I have to agree with Bubbles, going point by point isn't likely to win you any converts and as a letter it just doesn't flow well.

As always, "keep it simple" and stick to the points already raised.

-If you can't trust a teacher with a gun, why trust them with your kids.

-There can never be a Cop in *every* classroom.

Good luck and keep us posted.


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After Columbine my school instituted police check-points, bags & lockers were searched regularly but a lot of students still got thier hands on booze, drugs, & weapons. Smuggling contraband into the school was as simple as tossing a bag over the fence/through a window and having your friends retrieve it inside.
I guess my point is that no matter what kind of precautions you take someone out there is smart enough to get around them. In the end a well meaning, and Well-Prepared individual will do far more to increase you're child's safety than any number of rules or fancy gizmos.
 
I hear the line "they'll take your gun and use it against you" so often. At the risk of being crass, if it was that easy, why weren't Klebold or Cho disarmed?

Count me in for arming select teachers.
 
Instead of answering quoted sound bites (which can be viewed as "attacking others" even though it's not), try rewriting your points into a single, clear message.

Make it as personal as possible, using "me" and "mine" type language. This is less threatening and more apt to cause people to remember that there are actual human beings who disagree with them (instead of the faceless monsters of the NRA, you're just another mom with a family, who has safety concerns about her children just like they do).

Mention some situations where an armed, responsible person actually stopped school violence (Pearl, MI would be one place to start).

Good luck.

pax
 
I am in MI.

The 'proposal' is to allow certain persons to carry "for the defense of all." Ask if they really dont want their kids safe-you sure do.

It would do nothing as to the teacher(s) showing kids that voiolence is ok. It is defense not offense.

Tell the 'friends' that this has been done in Israel for a long time and all good has resulted. Send me a pm and I can send you a reprint from a gun mag about Israels policies on this matter.

I know the local newsguy that read the proposal as a 'news item' ast week one eve kinda looked like he had a 'raped' look on his face just cause he had to read the item.
 
I concur with the others, don't go responding to standard snippy antigun bits until they start flinging them.

Start with a few paragraphs of reality, where you can in context cover just some of their standard arguments, as well as show them the truth. Be careful not to fight on their terms and allow them to drive the discussion, that's what you are doing when you jsut respond to their silly little unrealistic questions. Keep it in the realm of reality.

Points to go over: Opening: The school shooting were the vice principal went to his car, got his gun, returned, and stopped a school shooting, then wonder if the parents of the 3 kids killed BEFORE the VP got back from his car wished it was in his desk or in his home? (google to get the real facts)

State that you desire CCW only for teachers that WANT to carry, not for teachers who have no desire to.

Starter: Go over the basics of getting CCW, how you have to go through a background check, sit through classes, etc. Question why someone who cannot pass that background check should be allowed to teach. Question why you allow the teacher to possess control over somethign of huge value, your children, and for them to act wisely with that power, yet you still don't trust them with a gun? Thow them this one, what about a person who was a police officer, and switched carreers to being a teacher, if that same person had been assigned the school patrol, they'd have no problem with him carrying a gun at school, but now that he is teaching, why should it be different. Mention how for everything, there is always the exception individual, but this is true of police too. You don't get a special moral compass along with the badge they pin on you, you have to use the one God gave you and your parents help tune.

Middle: Address CCW weapons 'falling into the wrong hands' Address that concealed means concealed yadda yadda. Talk about how 'the bad guy taking the person's gun' is something that happens only in the movies, OR if the person holding the gun is unsure of how to use it (again this is why you only want teachers who personally desire CCW to have a CCW) Mention of how even if the bad guy thinks he has a 50/50 chance of grabbing the gun away, those odds still suck for him, criminals just don't do it. Preemptive challenge for data of actual disarmament data or news stories. Note that police are more likely to be disarmed than anyone as they have to wrestle them down and subdue a person a CCWer would hold them at gunpoint until the police arive

Conclusion: Talk about how many people who claim your kids should be defenseless have the money and resources to hire armed guards (the govenor etc) Talk about metal detectors, lets say they are 100% effective at detecting weapons, so what? Is a kid bent on a school massacre going to stop because a machine starts beeping?
 
Rather than responding point by point with reason, which will go over like a lead balloon in a Mom's forum (sorry to be sexist, but it's true), I'd go with the following one-line soundbite:

Uh, maybe you missed the part where I'm a member of a mom's group because I'm a mom?

There are lots of folks who don't have patience to read a long threaded response and lots of folks who do. There are folks who follow reasonable thought and those who don't. Some of each are men and some of each are women.

And I'm about as interested in a self-proclaimed sexist opinion as I am in an anti-gun opinion. So, thanks, but no thanks.
 
So, yeah, in other non-sexist news, I am reworking my response. For one thing, the poster who commented from an anti pov scared me a bit. Some of these women are just socialist enough that they might report me to CPS for being pro-gun, if I manage to irk them sufficiently in the process.

It'll be succinct and non-threaded. Thanks for reminding me about "I statements". That should help.

I can't use links or stats or proof, simply because I don't want to get into a battle of authorities and create too much acrimony. My purpose here is not so much to turn them pro-gun as to let them know that anti-gun is not a universal postion in the local "natural parenting" circles, and to help any latent and shy pros or even less virulent antis to be less shy about saying so.

Oh, and the but where I said it's been acknowledged that metal detectors do not work was referring to comments made in the thread--it was using their own admission to defeat a point one of them was trying to make.

Still working on what to say exactly. A little worried about them causing trouble for me. It has happened before, to the point where I'm minimally involved with that community. I gotta be more careful. (Hence, btw, the posting it here first)
 
delta9, I'm not familiar with the ways teachers in Michigan are monitored.

Does every one of them undergo an FBI background check and are their teachers licenses revoked immediately if they fall afoul of the law? Concealed Weapons Permit holders in all states with which I'm familiar have to meet those strict standards. I'd feel comfortable with my children in a class taught by someone like that and I don't know why any other parent wouldn't.

I'd also feel more comfortable if my children's teachers were able to protect them against immediate danger than if they and their teacher were at the mercy of a madman until the police could arrive. I don't know why any parent would object to having their child in the care of a teacher who could serve as their personal armed guard.

None of those considerations need communicate whether you yourself like guns. I love my children and want them to be safe, and I care more about them than I do about any political agenda. I don't know why other parents don't feel the same about their children. Political agendas don't protect children. Parents do.

I would most definitely make the point that this law enables only teachers with Concealed Weapons Permits. It does not enable lunatics and criminals to have guns on school grounds. Lunatics and criminals don't need such a law because they will take guns, knives, and other potential weapons to use against kids even without this new law. This law--like every other law--affects only law abiding people. The others don't care. That's why this law is essential: it will help people who care about children.
 
Still working on what to say exactly. A little worried about them causing trouble for me. It has happened before, to the point where I'm minimally involved with that community. I gotta be more careful. (Hence, btw, the posting it here first)
A very good friend of mine is a foster mom and child day care provider. She has been the target vicious and vindictive anonymous complaints to child protective services. She has a good track record with CPS, so the anonymous complaints are investigated in a perfunctory manner and are closed as 'unsubstantiated'.

If this is a group you are involved in that will stoop to this level, you may want to reevaluate your continued contact with them. These kinds of people only let you 'play' as long as you play their game.

Pilgrim
 
Im a teacher, and im a former Marine both. I would be thrilled beyond belief if I could CC into school, the only place I go regularly where im legally disarmed. Will it ever happen? Doubtful.

You could argue that people like myself are trained and thus a good value since the district wouldnt have to hire off-duty police or security guards, yet these are smokescreen excuses. First they'll refuse to arm teachers because we "arent trained!" to the "level" that police are, second they'll cut the budget for security/police on the grounds that they would prefer an additional music or art class or new textbooks.

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As far as CCW in schools, ask your fellow Moms why Oregon loves its children more than Michigan. I think Utah has similar legislation.

Nice article! I want to move the Oregon!
 
"Your concerns about armed teachers, while understandable, are the product of unfamiliarity with concealed handgun proponents. These people are law abiding citizens living in your neighborhood, on your block, maybe next door to you. They have passed a criminal background check [I don't know if your email list is for a certain state, feel free to use the laws particular to your state if applicable.] You, and your children interact with them daily. They shop in the same stores you shop do. They eat in the same restaurants you eat at. They sit in the same theaters you sit in. They watch their children play in the same park your children play in.
Is there a magical force field around our schools that stops people from walking in with their weapons? Yes and no. If lawful handgun holders are prohibited from carrying in schools, they will not. But madmen like the ones at Colombine are not deterred. They have made the decision to throw away the gift of life, and to take it from others. A law barring weapons from school grounds means NOTHING to them.
Lawful handguns in schools would not be a panacea. But it would remove a quality that makes school shootings possible. Schools have been the sight of some of the worst killing sprees in history not despite of anti gun laws, but BECAUSE OF THEM. The Amish school killer, the Red Lake High School killer, knew that NO ONE would be able to stop them. Not one school shooting has been stopped without ARMED response.
Gun free zones are not safe zones. They are killing fields. And we must banish them from our schools forever."

That's what I would say.
 
Where are you in MI?

Do point out, that while there were security guards in my high school (Midland), it was a 60-year old guy who was unarmed, and whose main purpose was to write parking tickets.

Further, is it bad that they are letting people defend themselves, instead of paying more into a system that is already low on funds for 'professional' security?

Also, to what standards are private security firms held? It seems to me that some of them aren't any different than private citizens with guns.
 
I'm in Lansing. Some of the women are in Lansing, which does have some frightening schools. Most are in East Lansing/Okemos/other nearby cities which are "safe", that is to say, affluent and mostly white, like Columbine.

I posted a message late last night:

"To answer the original question posed--what do we think of this bill--
my husband and I are strongly in favor of it.

We have many reasons.

They include the ineffectiveness of metal detectors in schools, the
caution and skill that characterizes the vast majority of CPL
holders, our constitutionally guaranteed right to keep and bear arms,
and the fact that concealed weapons would have saved lives at
Columbine and at Virginia Tech.

I am not a school shooting alarmist, but I do firmly believe that
disarming groups of people who are congregated in a small area is not
a good or a safe idea. I would be be much happier sending my
daughter to school knowing that several teachers are armed. For one
thing, it means that they have been through a far more thorough
background check than was required to be hired as a teacher

A gun is a tool. Sometimes it can be very, very useful. It is never
evil. It is just a tool. Incidentally, there is an introduction to
shooting day for women at the Multi-Lakes Conservation League this
Saturday. If anyone is interested in getting past the rhetoric and
acquiring a basic familiarity with several types of firearms, I'll be
happy to send you more information.

Sara"

So far, I got one worried and scared response and several ranting, disgusted responses. I think I just lost a few "friends" who had made the mistake of thinking my family are sheeple. But at least one person who responded and likely several who didn't got to think a little and see a new perspective.
 
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