My first thought goes to the Winchester 64gr PtSpt. It's real popular in my area with the AR crowd that hunts deer and pigs and don't reload). Second is the Hornady 60gr PtSpt factory load. Also, either 68gr Hornady or 69gr Federal match loads will meet your criteria.
I've used the Sierra 63gr bullet loaded in .223 (but not Win. 64gr) to kill deer with .223 and .22-250. Never more than one shot necessary and never a bullet recovered. Also, the 65gr GameKing from .223. My .22-250 with 1/14" twist won't adequately stabilize it... I've also used the Berger 70gr VLD from a 1/9" barrel (20" Mossberg MVP) to take deer (through and through, no recovered bullets).
Most of the deer I've taken with a .223 have been with either bulk pack 55gr Spt or with 60gr Spt. (My second favorite). I just recently ran out and will likely get some 62gr hp blems that MidSouth Shooters Supply is offering. However, I still have 300+ Sierra 63's, so on second thought I'll use those. Of course I have some Berger VLD's and a BUNCH of 75gr Hornady BTHP's for my RRA NM AR w/1-8" bbl. But it AIN'T a hunting gun at 13.5lbs. They might stabilize in my 1/9" Carbine...
