How do you define a man?

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I have been pondering this quite a bit in the last year or so.

Aside from my physical maladies which have been discussed on this site before, I am probably like many men here. I lift weights, train in martial arts, (modified to fit my limitations) exercise regularly… I carry a firearm to protect myself and my family etc…

But here is where things go awry. I am a stay at home dad (or as my wife jokingly calls me, a housewife.:rolleyes: ) I am primarily responsible for the care and upbringing of my 1 y/o daughter. I vacuum, clean the bathroom, do the laundry, cook 3 meals a day, sew when necessary, and I even bake regularly. I also do the guy stuff… mow the grass, fix the cars, home maintenance etc…

I am happy with my life but occasionally I can’t help but laugh about the incongruity of it with the general stereotypes in our society.

No one ever seems to have any issues with me lifestyle. All the women want to know where they can find one of me;) and all the guys maintain a healthy respect :neener: (see the beginning of this post.)

I am just wondering, how do you all define manhood?
 
The ancient Persians defined a man as one who could "Ride well, shoot straight with arrows and speak the truth."

I kinda agree with that definition.

Biker
 
Interesting question but of course it's not gun-related so Justin will lock this thread as soon as he sees it which should be any second now as he appeantly never sleeps and monitors the forum 24/7.
 
What makes you a man comes from the inside, not the outside. Your honor, ideals, and integrity, not if you bake a mean cake ( which I do and I decorate it too.) Guiding the next generation, teaching them the things they need to know, providing their needs and protecting them is the thing. Being a "housewife" does all of those things. Probably better than those of us who work too much and get very little time with the kids.
 
Interesting question but of course it's not gun-related so Jason will lock this thread as soon as he sees it which should be any second now as he appeantly never sleeps and monitors the forum 24/7.



still don't know how to do that quote thing



I disagree. I think it goes to explain our choices to carry and defend our loved ones.
 
I am a stay at home dad (or as my wife jokingly calls me, a housewife. ) I am primarily responsible for the care and upbringing of my 1 y/o daughter. I vacuum, clean the bathroom, do the laundry, cook 3 meals a day, sew when necessary, and I even bake regularly. I also do the guy stuff… mow the grass, fix the cars, home maintenance etc…
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Being a man means being responsible, trustworthy, unselfish, keeping your whits about you in times of need, and taking care of those who would depend on you. It sounds like you fit the description.

It has nothing to do with your hobbies, dress, the vehicle you drive, the job you do, music you listen to, your political beliefs, your religious beliefs, your family heritage, the friends you keep, or even, (gasp!) the caliber you choose for your CCW. ;)

In other words, what our society considers "guy stuff" doesn't mean a damn thing.
 
Being a man means being responsible, trustworthy, unselfish, keeping your whits about you in times of need, and taking care of those who would depend on you. It sounds like you fit the description.
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+1
 
But here is where things go awry. I am a stay at home dad (or as my wife jokingly calls me, a housewife. ) I am primarily responsible for the care and upbringing of my 1 y/o daughter. I vacuum, clean the bathroom, do the laundry, cook 3 meals a day, sew when necessary, and I even bake regularly. I also do the guy stuff… mow the grass, fix the cars, home maintenance etc…
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there is nothing wrong with doing that stuff, my brother was a stay at home father for along time. i work during the weekends so about 75% of my time is spent at home during the week while my wife is working, i clean the house cook, keep stuff in order drink beer etc. while she is away (we dont have children yet) but we do have 2 dogs :) this isnt the 1950s anymore i for one would rather stay in a clean house during the day then sit in a dirty one and wait for my wife to come home and clean it (like she would do it anyways LOL)
 
I don't know who said it...

But its like pornography... I'll know it when I see it.

Not to sound like an idoit, but what you wrote makes me say: who cares?
I am happy with my life
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Thats what is important. And you get to spend a lot of time with your kid. My best friend is divorced, and only sees his daughter on the weekends, and he is always saying how he wishes that he had more time with her, but I laso know "regular" fathers who say the same thing.

Being a good father makes you a good man more then getting up and going to work every morning. Getting up and going to work is easy, infact, I know a few people who going home is hard. They like work because they can hide from life there.

You are doing fine, keep up the good work... Now get back in the kitchen and fix me a sandwich.:D
 
Fan,

I too am a stay-at-home dad. One of my family's reasons for moving from CA to TX was so that we could flourish as a single income family at our discretion. I still work from home a bit as a technical writer but by and large, I take care of our daughter, the dogs, and the housework.

My father, an old Marine DI, used to recite a maxim quite similar to the one stated above: "Speak true, shoot straight, and defend what you love".

B.
 
Interesting question but of course it's not gun-related so Justin will lock this thread as soon as he sees it which should be any second now as he appeantly never sleeps and monitors the forum 24/7.
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Only so long as I don't run out of coffee. ;)

This would be a good discussion for APS.
 
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