What RC is stating is essentially true, as you can see in this attached pic of a lee 44 expander die with relevant pieces.
The belling stop is at the very end of the stroke. It is not very progressive- it is notable and abrupt at the end of the stroke.
If you have fully resized the brass in a correct resizer die, and applied the correct case expansion, you should need to seat the bullets with significant force.
Something is indeed, wrong.
The pieces you are looking at are the reason I use a combination of lee and lyman dies for 44 - I do not like the inaccuracy of the expander lee provided me. In addition to your size problems, the "travel" of the powder through expander causes all kinds of mayhem to the untrained. If it sticks in a certain spot while you are fine tuning the die, you can have variance issues on each piece of brass. Just like you are having now.
Mine is not in spec. It will provide the same issue you are describing, OP- it expands to .4315- far too large.
It accomplished this feat by being out of round not out of size. It was basically unfixable.
You can do as RC explains, or obtain a different expander die.
I love the lee sizer, with the "safety" decapping pin. I love the seater, with a one step VS two step approach. I hated the expander. The 44 set is one of many that I have found lacking, and one of the many reasons I take lee die problems with a grain of salt. Unlike most dies- at their heart, usually the problem ends up being the die- not the user.
Because of the travel ability in a LEE powder through expander die, the expander can be the exact diameter intended- yet be applied in the stroke at an angle not completely true- dramatically changing the diameter of the expanded case. In a perfectly formed die, applied by an expert hand, in a perfect world- this would never be an issue. Given the perpensity for non perfection in both the die, the user, and our world- I would ( and did ) buy a better die.
Easy test for this :
Take the expander die out of your quick change bushing.
Take the powder measure adapter off, so you can view the expander plug.
Shake it side to side, being careful not to shake it up and down.
Hear that rattle ? Thats your expander going side to side. Its not "true".
Stick your brass up in the die.
See how much clearance you have around the sides ? You can have that much "slop" in each round- allowing each one to be different.
Put these two together- and you have a recipe for inconsistency. Throw in a loosely cut shellholder, and you essentially have a slinky trying to stay a tube.
You could send it back to lee........ Or just go buy a better tool.
Guess which one I did ?
FWIW- if you get a really good shellholder, and a perfect expander plug from lee- you could make this work. I have never heard of anything "perfect" from lee- only good enough.