How to convince my wife

[buholoco]

I went to a gun show today and saw a Bushmaster AR-15 variation with the accessory mount system on the front grip, adjustable stock, and tactical sight for $695. My wife said if I came home with any guns she would kick me out. What do I do?!!!!!!!!! She wouldn't really kick me out, but how do we as gun lovers relay this fascination with firearms to our women?

 

[Furncliff]

Take them shooting.

 

[Ol` Joe]

My wife said if I came home with any guns she would kick me out. What do I do?

Have a buddy carry the gun in the house the first time......

 

[garrett1955]

the heck with it... buy it and ask for forgivness later. I hear it's the easyest way.

then say: hun ya wanna come to the range with me???

 

[Live Free Or Die]

Is your wife perturbed because she doesn't want you to bring more guns home, or because she doesn't want you to spend $695 for budgetary reasons?

If it's the former, I'd consider throwing caution to the wind: buy it and deal with the aftermath.

If it's the latter, I might be a little more sympathetic to your wife's point of view. My wife and I have worked out a budget in which we each get a certain amount of discretionary spending money monthly. I tend to save mine up for a few months and buy a new toy. My wife isn't enthusiastic about the kind of toys I choose, but she doesn't say anything because it doesn't really affect her or our overall financial goals.

 

[hso]

Can you aford the gun?
If the answer is "No" then you'd be a fool to spend the money on it.
If the answere is "No, but.." then you'd still be a fool to divert needed funds for a toy.
If the answer is "Yes, but.." then as long as the money you divert is diverted from another one of your toys instead of something that the 2 of you were going to do/use you're ok.
If it's a resounding "Yes" then you need to have a talk about priorities and control limits with the little lady. As long as the bills are paid, the recreational fund for the 2 of you is being kept flush, retirement is contributed to, savings are fine and the kids' college fund is well in hand anything you spend your money on is none of her damn business unless she wants to give up being your wife and become your mother. Remind her that you left Mom at the home place years ago and unless she wants to be left alone and visited twice a month for an hour at a time she needs to decide what role she wants to play in your life.

 

[GeoW]

Find a new wife. This time be aware of her stance on firearms. They all come comparably equiped otherwise.
GeoW

 

[dwave]

My advice that I have heard before:

It is easier to get forgiveness, than permission.

And take her shooting and hit some milk jugs or 2 liter bottles filled with water, that is always fun.

 

[BillinNH]

OK, I had a girlfriend couple of years ago who thought it was outrageous that I owned over 30 guns. You simply don't NEED that many guns, she said. I opened her bedroom closet and pointed to the 110 pairs of shoes in there, each box with a little picture of the contents on the box.

Oh, she said, That's different!

Geez!

Bill

 

[mbs357]

Heh...you have a gun...do the only thing you can do...




Go outside, hunt down some exotic creature, make shoes and a purse out of it.
She'll love you.

 

[stevelyn]

If it doesn't have anything to do with a budgetary issue, I'd buy the gun and trade the wife in on another model.

 

[grizz]

If your family's financial sitiuation is the reason she wont allow it, or your family needs something else to be purchased in stead then don't buy it.

If she thinks you have "enough" guns aleady, explain why you want this one so bad (it's a good deal, etc.), and try to reach a comprimise, e.g. say "i'll wash and vacuum your car for 3 months", or "i'll work overtime", or something else, but you get the idea. If she goes for this you MUST follow through with your end of the bargain, or odds are she'll NEVER allow a similar arrangement in the future.

Just my .02. I screwed up a marriage and will forever regret making selfish decisions.

Hope it works out well.

 

[davek]

After ten years of marriage, all it ended up taking for me was to clean the house from top to bottom.

Who knew?

 

[lacy]

ways of the world

i can tell you from experience that if you can afford it... buy it.. she wont really leave you... she might be mad but hey... you cant always be perfect.. i agree with the whole take her shooting... dont even tell her what you are doing.... just take her out for a drive and put a gun in her hand. when she sees how happy you are (if she truely knows you) she will give in..
now im no typical gal myself.. but it will work.. if it doesnt.. you can always yell at me and we can go shooting!!!!

 

[Atticus]

Bushmaster AR-15 variation

Ah Grasshopper......that is the beauty of the AR15 system. You didn't buy a gun...you bought gun parts. They will go from the trunk to the house one part at a time. They are simply upgrades to the rifle you already own.

 

[Rembrandt]

My wife said if I came home with any guns she would kick me out. What do I do?!!!!!!!!!

The things we forget to inquire about when dating.....you're doomed to a life of misery.

 

[ArmedBear]

Go see Granny. The elderly, despite the fact that compassionate young liberals see them merely as senile parasites, are actually quite wise. And from the content of your post, any amount of wisdom beats what you've got.

Heeeeeyyyyeeeere's GRANNY!

http://www.break.com/index/grannymachinegun.html

 

[ArmedBear]

The things we forget to inquire about when dating.....you're doomed to a life of misery.

Paraphrasing the great French author, Alexandre DUMAS...

But in all seriousness, have her go model for Oleg. She'll come back a changed woman.

 

[.45man]

ya got to test the waters (if you have not already).....my wife said that about 60+ guns ago. she used to tell me on occasion that I had to sell some of my guns..

I told her the only way I would ever sell a gun is when the family, the dog AND the gun safe are out on the street

 

[Lupinus]

Say "woman sit down you have your stuf you like to spend money on I have mine."

That is conditional to you having the extra money. If buying this means a bill doesn't gets paid you deserve for her to take it away and use it to club your balls.

 

[dawgtraxx]

It is easier to get forgiveness, than permission.

truer words were never spoken

 

[Shootcraps]

Any wife who says she'll kick her husband out for buying a gun, isn't much of a wife.

Get a lady-friend who shoots to get her to go with you. See if you can convert her.

 

[deputy tom]

If it isn't a financial burden to your family buy the item you want and get the wife a new pair of shoes on the way to buying her a nice dinner.That always works for me.tom.

 

[mtang45]

I've been married 25 years and the wife does not need to know what recent acquisitions I have made. I only buy when I can afford it, as long as the checking account has money when my wife needs it she's happy. When I buy something new it goes in the trunk of the car, car pulls into the garage, new toy comes out of trunk, down the basement stairs and to "MY ROOM". If the wife notices something new at a later date, my standard answer is "Honey I've had that for a long time". Time is relative.

 

[granny geek]

First: if you can't afford it, DON'T buy it. Practice avoiding temptation by standing in front of the mirror and saying "I can't afford that; I can't afford that; I can't afford that".

However if you can afford it, you might try these things:

Muse aloud from time to time about the terrible crimes against women. It helps if you can find some articles in the paper and casually point them out to her. After that, occasionally mention a gun for her for her self protection. Then sign her up for the NRA and get her a subscription to Woman's Outlook. Believe me, she'll read The Armed Citizen page and it will give her a lot to think about. At that point, find somewhere, preferably out in the boonies, where she can shoot at a really big target pretty close up (no discouragement in the early stages). If you have a country friend with a wife or girlfriend who shoots, that would be a great help. If your wife is afraid of handguns, start with a .22 long rifle (NOTE: don't start with anything that kicks) and slowly work your way down in length and up in caliber. Finally, take her to a gun shop to look for a gun for her. If it turns out that she's a pretty good shot, stress the fun aspect of shooting together -- and be prepared to buy a new gun for her every time you buy one for yourself.

good luck,
granny geek

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