How to debate with anti-gun relative

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I am in a debate with a young relative who lives in New Zealand and is very anti-gun. I am going to quote you some of his comments to ask what you all think would be appropriate responses. I have already replied to him but I would be interested in comparing what I said with what you folks think and that might help me in future rounds in this debate. I have edited his comments very slightly so that they make sense out of context. I show his comments in italics as they might be a bit easier for you to quote in your replies than if I wrap them in quote tags.

In reply to me saying that keeping and bearing weapons for personal protection was a fundamental human right, he says:

Well, I don't actually believe in human rights personally, I believe more in a concept of duties and permissions, but I guess there is a right to protect yourself. However that does not relate to a right to harm others. I think if you kill someone in self-defense then you are just as culpable as any other murderer and the fact that you were able to do so because you secrete a weapon on your person each day makes you even more culpable.

He goes on to say:

Criminals generally commit crimes due to a whole range of socio-economic factors in their lives that may be equal in pressure to the desire to defend yourself and they do not deserve to be harmed any more than the person who is having the crime committed against them. We should be focusing on fixing them not killing them.

In reply to my saying that wider gun ownership by law-abiding citizens does not correlate with increased violence, he replies:

The fact is in the USA you have far more people shooting people in 'self-defense' to prevent things like robberies rather than murder attempts, which let's face it, are ridiculously rare in any society and therefore carrying weapons of any kind is completely unjustified. It is not the gun ownership laws that determine crime rates it is society's general attitude to crime and in NZ at least wider gun ownership would never help to reduce crime or make people safer.


Regarding my comment that wide gun ownership could help to defend against a potentially oppressive government, he says:

I'm sure a government hell bent on killing its population would do that but the fact is ours isn't. We trust our government here. Our police may not carry weapons, most do not have access to them although there is consideration at the moment for allowing them to have them in lock boxes in their cars more frequently. Even our army has low numbers of guns with most being trained as engineers, doctors and drivers/pilots to assist in other combat operations overseas without a focus on fighting themselves. We recently had a very large earthquake in Christchurch destroying hundreds of homes and we barely had looting because we actually got our relief workers in there within hours rather than leaving it weeks like you did with Hurricane Katrina. An earthquake the size of Haiti's with 1300 aftershocks thus far still has not resulted in a casualty. I know you are not a fan of governments over regulating things but for us it works. There are alternatives to using weapons to protect yourself and we do that.
 
You can not debate with this pseudo-intellectual moron. He has been thoroughly brainwashed with the standard left wing tripe and nothing you say will change him. He lives in his non-reality dreamworld of denial.

I suggest you not bother to waste your time.

L.W.
 
Funny, since I have had some experience with New Zealand Spec-Ops in Afghanistan. They did lot of crazy stuff... lots of "snatch n' grabs," and if the snatch n' grabs didn't go as planned, they were much more quick to "dispatch" the bad guys than we could.

New Zealand also have gnarly gangs, and have their own serious issues regarding violent crime.

Based upon your opponents argument, he is either very ignorant, or trying to push your buttons. It also appears he has a preconceived low opinion of the U.S.. I doubt that he will give anything you present any thought. It is a wash... there is no point in wrestling with pigs.
 
Well, I don't actually believe in human rights personally, I believe more in a concept of duties and permissions

Is your relative named George Soros, perchance? It sounds like his take on what everyone else's "rights" should be (or, rather, NOT be).
 
Your friend doesnt have a good understanding of societies varying histories,nor does he/she comprehend human behavior in a realistic light.To try and "enlighten" this individual would take a healthy amount of time and effort,not to mention expanding their exposure to other viewpoints,societal structures and the associated moral,legal and ethical factors ....and to what end....what would all this effort succeed in accomplishing....they still might not agree with you....but we do.Best of luck to you in this endeavor my friend,keep us updated.
 
Why bother to debate?
You don't need his approval of your own beliefs & you're unlikely to change his.
Denis
 
Best of luck to you in this endeavor my friend,keep us updated.
Thanks, I've already sent a couple more comments to him based on the information received so far. Keep that great advice coming!
 
Why bother to debate?
You don't need his approval of your own beliefs & you're unlikely to change his.
Denis
I don't need his approval, you are right, but I hope to change his views. And it's not a bad discipline to have my own views put under scrutiny and have to defend them!
 
Duns - the other posters are right. There is nothing you can say that will change this person as they have been too well "brainwashed" by the system and your time would be better spent elsewhere.
Sad to say but this person would be among the first to fall if and when the SHtF.
 
Would they be unwilling to stop a lethal threat to a child? Would they be willing to call the police to stop a lethal threat to a child? If so, why is it okay for the police to bear the brunt of stopping a lethal threat? Can they even get there in time? Would they allow a person to be raped behind their convictions if they could stop it competently?

Good luck. Try to listen. Some anti-s just haven't examined why they believe what they do. And it doesn't always hold up to scrutiny. Sometimes it does but at times, they change their mind. I know I've changed my mind about many things I used to believe strongly. Helps that as you age, things become less black and white.

EDIT: If we do not examine our own beliefs, what value do they have? If we do not engage in discussion with others who believe otherwise, how do we grow? I guess we can all just sit at home with our guns pointing fingers at others. Or you can try to change. Don't lose your mind over it, but I admire your bravery and ability to self-scrutinize. Thanks to those who have asked me the above questions, or I might not have arrived at where I'm at.
 
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There are people who bring something to a relationship or friendship that can be beneficial to both parties. Consider your contact with this individual as an education in a totally different way of thinking and looking at something. I thought Zena was from down there??

Also the other side of the coin is dealing with what might be called a psychic Vampire. They suck the will and life out of you so that you become just another sheep in the vast herd being driven to slaughter...err they shear there don't they??
 
Duns - the other posters are right. There is nothing you can say that will change this person as they have been too well "brainwashed" by the system and your time would be better spent elsewhere.
Sad to say but this person would be among the first to fall if and when the SHtF.
You may be right but he's young and also a law student -- he should be exposed to differing views. Just maybe they will help him and others that he may counsel in his future career.
 
As a rule I do NOT debate with antis. Been there and done that. They think they know what they think they know and they won't change their minds. Facts have nothing to do with it. It's an emotional thing and therefore they cannot be swayed by rational argument. That's why I don't even discuss RKBA with the antis among my relatives. They know I support the RKBA and I know they don't. No more needs to be said. It's like trying to convince an atheist there is a God, or convincing a Christian there isn't.
 
Duns ,
I read and re read your post. Its appalling that some people can be so indoctrinated.
They must have started on him/her when he/she was just a baby.
You will never change anything by debating. It is clearly imprinted permanantly and only real life experiences will change that way of thinking and it will take many years.
 
Would they be unwilling to stop a lethal threat to a child? Would they be willing to call the police to stop a lethal threat to a child? If so, why is it okay for the police to bear the brunt of stopping a lethal threat? Can they even get there in time?
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If we do not examine our own beliefs, what value do they have? If we do not engage in discussion with others who believe otherwise, how do we grow?
FriedRice, I quoted just parts of your post but your entire post made complete sense to me. I've changed my mind too on many matters. I was pro gun-control when I was living in England but changed my mind when I arrived in the USA and was exposed to other points of view.
 
Duns ,
I read and re read your post. Its appalling that some people can be so indoctrinated.
They must have started on him/her when he/she was just a baby.
He grew up in England and New Zealand so was indeed indoctrinated all his life. I grew up and spent most of my life in England before arriving in Texas. I'm hopeful I can make him think about it more deeply.
 
So if he were in a situation where he would be killed and the only option left is to fight back he would do absolutely nothing? What would his "duty" be? Or would he need some kind of "permission" to defend his family if a rapist/murder came into his house to have their way. What about the sociopaths(sorry "anti-personality" disorder is the politically correct term) in society, like Ted Bundy? Are you truly going to be able to fix every bad apple in society before they can cause damage?

He can be as proud of his government as he wants to be. No government is perfect and eventually in all of it's good intentions will become bloated and bureaucratic doing less and less good.

How old is this person? I'm willing to bet it's an idealistic student that hasn't held a real job yet to support himself and has yet to deal with the real world. Peace, love, and harmony are great ideas and I'd drop my guns in a second to live in a world like that, but humans are too greedy in nature to ever allow for a perfect society. Honestly words won't convince someone like that. It's a waste of breath.

I'm just thankful I live in America and have the right to defend my home and family.
 
Well, I don't actually believe in human rights personally,

You cannot debate gun rights with an ideologue whose core values do not reflect the inherent necessity of individuality and liberty, and expect to win. You must have a foundation upon which to build the structure of logic inherent to individual rights; this man has a proverbial fault line, not a foundation.
 
If some does not believe in human rights , then why would a crimnal have a right to not get dispatched permanantly?
The whole logic is self contradicting.
So maybe as this guy matures and realizes that the world is not what he imagines , he will make some self corrections.
 
Let me tell you something about these hardcore unreasonable anti gunners :fire:
stay away from them they have no sense of SELF PRESERVATION they are potentially dangerous in such a mannner that if for example A home invasion occurs with an armed robber broke in and there was a loaded gun near them these ignorant pitiful type of people they would rather try to reason with an armed robber and get shot and killled then shoot back in SELF DEFENSE. If somebodies father was like this and this scenario were to happen and your mother and siblings were sleeping in their beds in the house this would end tragically with casualties of innocent people being killed by an armed robber because of this anti gunner "HOPLOPHOBE!" Because of their type view of guns and self defense Never trust these people with your life for that matter!
 
To have a debate there has to be a common uncertainty that you are working to define.

Sorry but, best bet is to let this idiot alone, or move to create that uncertainty, talking won't do it, maybe some shooting at the next family outing, (take a .22 for his kids...) and show that guns aren't evil might open some ground for you, talking to a brainwashed... NO.

OH, NZ, never mind, might want to remind him that NZ actually has/had some of the last practicing head hunters in the world....
 
Duns, I'm glad you found it useful. Some people don't examine their beliefs. I do. This kid is young and he's going to have influence in his life. You may not change his mind but you may plant a seed that will grow. If he does change his mind, think about the ripple effect that will have with the others he will come in contact with in his life. People sharing their side with me, and helping me examine my beliefs has had a HUGE ripple effect. Despite all of the stupid choices I've made in my life, and the stupid choices of others, they were just that, ignorant, because they were unexamined and ill-informed. I choose not to live in a world where we just pick sides and throw rocks at each other. People's beliefs make sense to them for a reason. Might be helpful to find out what his reasons are. Who taught him these things? Why did they believe them?

At no point in life, while you still have a heartbeat, should you stop using your brain. That being said, if he locks back and bucks, you might want to give him some space to think it through.
 
Who taught him these things? Why did they believe them?
He is a young man, a law student, has not yet had his first job as someone else perceptively divined. He has just accepted the position of his government as did his parents before him and probably everyone else he ever knew. Yes, I am hoping to plant a seed.
 
How to debate with anti-gun relative

Good luck with that. This individual has been conditioned to view firearms in a negative manner, and, imo, it will take much more than your debate to condition him otherwise.

I don't actually believe in human rights personally,

Human rights exist only when they are demanded by humans themselves, and only when humans are capable of protecting those rights.


I believe more in a concept of duties and permissions, but I guess there is a right to protect yourself. However that does not relate to a right to harm others. I think if you kill someone in self-defense then you are just as culpable as any other murderer and the fact that you were able to do so because you secrete a weapon on your person each day makes you even more culpable.

I believe in duty as well, and I have a DUTY to protect my family from those that would use arms to cause them harm.

This kid obviously does NOT understand the nature of man, otherwise, he would not be confused about the NECESSITY to use violence to PREVENT violence perpetrated by those incapable of reason on the innocent.

We should be focusing on fixing them not killing them.

Again, this is a direct reflection of his naivete. Criminals don't want to be "fixed". They want to impose their will over others for personal satisfaction, and to avoid the labor required to achieve their goals.

It is not the gun ownership laws that determine crime rates it is society's general attitude to crime and in NZ at least wider gun ownership would never help to reduce crime or make people safer.

This may be true, however, he can get back to me when he lives in a country with 330 million people, including MILLIONS who fail to embrace the culture, norms, and educational standards of his society. New Zealand has all of 4.3 million people.....less than New York city. Our nation has more illegal aliens than his nation has legitimate citizens.

I'm sure a government hell bent on killing its population would do that but the fact is ours isn't. Blah blah blah....

That's great for New Zealand, however, some of us like to abide by big boy rules. That means the citizens are allowed to possess "dangerous" arms for purposes as diverse as plinking, competition, defense, collecting, historical purposes, AND to use against a tyrannical government OR invaders, should the need ever arise.

Foreigners can talk all the smack they want about violence in the U.S., but the bottom line is this:

Is a society that doesn't trust their citizens enough to own arms worth living in?

I know what MY answer to that question is...
 
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