Instructions:
1. Place a small table in the hall or dining room, where guests can see it but where it will not be in the way. You might place it in a corner to the side of the head table, for instance, or to the side of the entrance door.
2. Spread the white tablecloth on the table, making sure that it is straight and symmetrical.
3. Set one place, with a clean, white place mat, plate, bread plate, cloth napkin and utensils. This setting represents your wish that the fallen men and women of the armed forces could be present at the happy occasion with you.
4. Insert a white taper candle into a simple candle holder and place it to one side of the center of the table, beyond the place setting. The candle represents the light of hope.
5. Place a long-stemmed rose into a simple bud vase and place it to the other side of the center of the table from the candle. The rose represents the families who love and keep faith with the men and women who serve.
6. Tie a ribbon into a bow on the vase. A yellow ribbon traditionally represents loyally waiting for those who are serving away from home, while a red ribbon symbolizes the memory of and search for those missing in action.
7. Invert the wine glass or champagne flute, and place it upside-down to the right of the plate. This represents the fact that the fallen comrade will not be able to participate in the happy toasts at this event.
8. Place a lemon wedge on the bread plate. It represents the bitter loss of the life of the fallen soldier.
9. Sprinkle salt over the lemon and the bread plate. The salt represents tears.
10. Place an empty chair at the table in front of the place setting. This represents the missing comrade.