Fred Fuller
Moderator Emeritus
ADEE.
Avoid. De-escalate/Disengage. Escape. Evade.
We preach it all the time here, if anything ADEE can be said to be our default ROE (rules of engagement) in ST&T. Some folks don't agree with the idea of disengagement at all. Unfortunately that number might happen to include a certain number of folks who have already made up their minds to attack you. Important user note - you probably cannot de-escalate a situation like that. That's when other skills come into play. One of those skills is being able to recognize a situation where de-escalation is not going to work for you, so that you can move on to something else in a timely manner.
But that's an aside. An important aside, but still not where we're really headed here. So, how do you go about de-escalating a situation when it's still possible to salvage it without a fight?
Take a look at this: http://conflictcommunications.com/deescalation.htm
It's a fairly new collaboration from a couple of names you've seen here before if you've been reading long - Marc "Animal" MacYoung and Rory Miller. Who are these guys and why should you listen to them? See their biographies at http://conflictcommunications.com/biography.htm .
Avoid. De-escalate/Disengage. Escape. Evade.
We preach it all the time here, if anything ADEE can be said to be our default ROE (rules of engagement) in ST&T. Some folks don't agree with the idea of disengagement at all. Unfortunately that number might happen to include a certain number of folks who have already made up their minds to attack you. Important user note - you probably cannot de-escalate a situation like that. That's when other skills come into play. One of those skills is being able to recognize a situation where de-escalation is not going to work for you, so that you can move on to something else in a timely manner.
But that's an aside. An important aside, but still not where we're really headed here. So, how do you go about de-escalating a situation when it's still possible to salvage it without a fight?
Take a look at this: http://conflictcommunications.com/deescalation.htm
It's a fairly new collaboration from a couple of names you've seen here before if you've been reading long - Marc "Animal" MacYoung and Rory Miller. Who are these guys and why should you listen to them? See their biographies at http://conflictcommunications.com/biography.htm .