I am looking for some .44 Magnum ammo to put through a handgun, and I asked a friend what would be more gentle to my hands, a lighter bullet or a heavier bullet. He told me that in general, a heavier bullet will have more felt recoil because of the basic principles of inertia (action-reaction). This makes sense to me, but when I looked at some ballistic tables for various commercial loads, I seem to get the opposite answer. For example, I looked at the muzzle energy of a 180 grain bullet and it was much more than the muzzle energy of a 240 grain bullet, which is the opposite of what I would expect. (Granted, these were two different manufacturers, so they could have used two different test guns.) So here are my questions, assuming that we are testing various loads from the same gun: 1) Is “muzzle energy” a fairly good indicator of the felt recoil (that is, higher muzzle energy translates to higher felt recoil)? 2) Do heavier bullets in general produce higher muzzle energy and greater felt recoil then lighter bullets, other things being equal? PS - please keep your answers relatively simple, because I am not a ballistics expert, just a casual shooter. thanks