Helmet, you just made my case. Although, in your case, you can vote for your Dem candidates and trust Republicans will protect your 2A rights.
On your specifics, I have a few comments:
but also believes that the govt shouldn't discriminate against and discourage stem cell research when it encourages so many other forms of medical research
The government doesn't fund ALL medical research, nor should it, so if there is medical research that a large portion of the public reacts negatively to, the government should stay out of it. If fetal stem cell research is SOOOO promising, private enterprise will step in and fund it. If it will really cure people like Chris Reeves (as Edwards claimed) then think of all the money they would make. The fact remains that there is still NO clinical treatments available as a result of fetal stem cell research while there are many treatments that have been made available from adult stem cell research.
that religion and govt should be kept separate
There is absolutely no requirement that religion and government should be kept separate. There is only a requirement that the government pass no law respecting the establishment of a religion or the free exercise of religion. Hence, the 10 commandments in the Supreme Court building, an official congressional Chaplain, commencing each session of Congress with a prayer, and, until recently, the practice of swearing an oath in court by saying "so help me God." If the Founders had intended that religion and government be separate, why was there no objection to these until the last 20 years or so?
that we shouldn't tell gay people they can't enjoy the financial benefits of monogamous relationships that we afford straight folk
I don't believe any recent legislation has done this. Just because gay people cannot be married doesn't mean they can't enjoy the financial benefits of monogamous relationships. They certainly can live together, pool resources, draft wills, living wills and powers of attorney to enable their partners to have access to their assets. What they can't do is get married, because marriage is between a man and a woman. It's a definition thing. I may think its unfair that I'm classified as caucasian, but try as I might, I can't change the definition of what a caucasian is. Do I support civil unions for homosexuals. Sure. It's not marriage, but it provides the same benefits. What's the problem?
I believe in protecting the environment
The EPA was established by Nixon. Republicans, especially hunters, believe in protecting the enviornment too, just not when it doesn't make sense. Ceasing all logging to protect the habitat of an owl is silly, expecially because most research indicates that despite changes in habitats, species adapt and move. Making restrictions on petroleum refinining so harsh that a new refinery has not been built in this country in 30 years is not only stupid, it is economic suicide (as is refusing to swap 300 acres of ANWR for an additoinal 300,000 acres, so we can drill there). Leftists want to protect the environment to the detriment of all else. Conservatives take a more reasoned approach.
that women should get to choose
Choose what, to open carry a firearm? To have a fully automatic machine gun? To smoke? To drive 85 mph? To build a cabin in a national forest? Oh, you mean to have an abortion. That comes down to how we define life, and whether it is murder or not. What you really mean is not that women should get to choose, but that fetuses are not human, and therefore are not entitled to protection under the Constitution. You certainly don't support a women's right to choose to kill her baby after it is born, right? It's not about women's choice, it's about the definition of life. But it sounds much better to say it's about a woman's choice, right?
and that RNC controlled neocon influenced foreign policy has made us less safe not more (if we're safer today, why the hell can't I take hairgel on an airplane?)
It would be nice if President Bush could snap his fingers and all terrorists would stop thinking of different ways to wreak havoc on the world, but that would be a bit naive. The fact that those terrorists were caught, and did not succeed in their plot leads me to believe that we are safer now. However, I would have to agree with you that there are more things we could be doing. Would the Dems be doing better, however, is the question you need to ask yourself. Have you heard one Democrat articulate a plan other than "we wouldn't be President Bush"? Until they can tell us what they would DO differently, I'm not inclined to believe we actually would be safer under them.
and that the war on drugs = the war on civil liberties, and is something that's helped destroy not save our cities and families
I actually agree with you there. However, that is not a Dem/Repub thing. That is a libertarian thing. Dems are just as eager to fight that stupid war as Repubs are.