I read this and the vibe I was getting is you're waking up from the limitations of the .35 caliber and instead of having the one caliber to do a decent job that smaller and larger calibers can do better, but requires having more guns. Years ago I had the same awakening and realized that sure, I could get super low recoil with .38, but the .32 can still be lower and has better penetration and expansion capability if using hollow points. Then if I wanted power for hunting or large animal protection, the .45 Colt does that.
The popular opinion is that the 9mm and .357 are the Goldilocks caliber, they're "just right", but for a revolver I'm seeing 10mm as fitting that "just right" as it's available in medium frames and has a very wide selection of projectile weights from 135gr to 220 and has the option of shooting cheaper .40 S&W, which is more powerful than .38 and costs less. About the only thing the 10mm lacks that I wish Starline and others would make, is a rim like .45 Auto Rim got.
Now, that doesn't mean I'm not going to own .357's and .38's anymore, I have too much free brass from the range to do that, but I don't have much interest in them. The Taurus 692 I plan to get I'm mostly getting because it shoots 9mm, the .357 spare cylinder is just nice to have for fun.
The .327 is closer to .357 in power, but definitely has a hot .38 type recoil.