Pocket .380s are not going to shoot the same as larger frame guns, and most have a liability induced long trigger pull with double action as their function. They finish cocking the hammer or striker, adding more weight to the trigger pull, and frequently they release the firing pin striker very close to the frame. I don't have large hands but they are generally quite awkward to shoot - it's as if you need another knuckle to get that last tenth of an inch travel to make them fire.
Have HER go try them out, no one here would attempt to buy a gun for their shooting buddy as their are so many variables in experience, preference, and the way our hands work. What might be a perfectly acceptable trigger travel and weight may be nearly impossible for someone else - plus getting older, carpal tunnel, etc. These guns also have varying levels of recoil, from ok to painfully snappy. It has to do with the bore axis above the grip, recoil spring weight, and if they are blowback or Browning delayed.
Further, add in whether she wants to have the slide lock back on empty - which means you DON'T have to rack the gun repeatedly every time the mag is empty, or load against a closed slide, or do all that when time is of the essence. The last thing you want to discover is the gun is empty, it didn't tell you, and you have issues with racking the slide because it's not user friendly. Don't jump to conclusions that a high effort recoil spring is bad - shoot it and decide if a low effort recoil spring has acceptable levels of snap and muzzle rise. There IS a direct tradeoff.
Ignore styling if at all possible. If we could shoot them first, blindfolded, I believe the results of which is best as a dynamic relationship with the gun would be quite different than the games we play with Brand, etc. Just like the cooking shows, if you don't know what you are interacting with, you get to make choices on the actual product, not the social hype. Far too many buy Brand, and discover later the one they were told was socially unacceptable was exactly what they were looking for. It complicates things to layer picking what is best for someone else, and it gets exponentially more difficult to get the right one.
For lack of any other criteria, pocket guns are mostly .380, weight close to 10 oz, are polymer framed to meet that weight and a good price point. Lasers aren't a requirement and light technology goes obsolete after 4 years - the ones that include them are guaranteed to do the same. Better to add it on later and it can be upgraded. A slide hold open is a significant advantage, and for the most part, the lightest trigger with the shortest travel is what many prefer across the board when shooting. Put into the pocket the owner then thinks about safety, but a pocket holster and nothing else in there is the real answer. Many carry a SA gun with safety because of it. It's the gun market and liability that are forcing DAO on us.
If at all possible take her to a rental range and have her try some out. She will make a decision she has to live with one way or another, and you won't be to blame. Take it from the veteran husbands you don't want to chalk up another fail because you got her something she doesn't like. Save that for buying her a new vacuum for her anniversary.