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Until very recently I was with a girl who was pretty freaked out about having guns around, of course I didn’t know about this until we moved in together and I brought my first handgun home.

Now I know plenty of people here will say that they would never let their significant other keep them from buying or owning whatever firearms they wanted. I will admit that my ex’s fear of firearms did influence my actions, and I held off on additional purchases and tried to do my gun cleaning when she was not around.

Just for the record, our break up had nothing to do with firearms, I wish it was that simple.

Since we’re no longer together, I feel like a kid in a candy shop. There is a slight chance we’ll get back together, but in the meantime, I definitely want to take advantage of my new found freedom. I’ve been eyeing up a yugo AK under folder…hmmm.

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation?

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Heheh... Been there, done that. Though my ex wasn't necessarily "anti-gun" she wasn't thrilled with the idea of my keeping something in the house in a "ready" condition.

After the breakup I think I doubled my collection because I had nothing else to spend the money on. Of course that's not saying much because I didn't have much of a collection before the breakup anyway, but still....

I didn't realize how much I actually spent on dinners and movies and such until I started figuring it in terms of cases of ammo I could buy.
 
Yes my firearm habit has cost me a few girlfriends. I hated to loose them but I am who I am and I enjoy my hobby so I will not change drastic to keep a woman's interest.
I have made no attempts at hiding my hobby to girls I began to see so they knew where I stood from day 1.
I have yet to find a woman as reliable as my Colt.
 
I feel for you guys. I guess I'm pretty lucky in that department, as all the girls I've dated have had at least some interest. The beautiful blue-eyed gal I'm currently with wants to get her CCW and is in love with the Kimber Eclipse Pro.

Maybe I'll snap some photo's of her with the AR on Sunday just to rub it in a little! Hahaha!:evil:
 
I typed up quite a bit, then realized trash-talking an old relationship, even if I infused all due respect, is still something not needed anywhere on the internet, let alone a gun forum.

So anyway, all I really wanted to say was that if you do get back together with her, let her know who you are, guns and all other "problems", and she can take it or leave it.

EDIT: OHH SHOOT!

I almost forgot the financial aspect!

Don't let the idea of amassing an arsenal get in the way if you DO in fact want to spend the rest of your life with this woman, but if that isn't an issue, speaking relatively, you may have just won the lottery. I am a SUCKER, through and through, so being suddenly single literally DOUBLED the amount of money that I had to spend. To speak more accurately, it halved the amount of money that I was spending from my savings.
 
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Until very recently I was with a girl who was pretty freaked out about having guns around, of course I didn’t know about this until we moved in together and I brought my first handgun home.

Now I know plenty of people here will say that they would never let their significant other keep them from buying or owning whatever firearms they wanted. I will admit that my ex’s fear of firearms did influence my actions, and I held off on additional purchases and tried to do my gun cleaning when she was not around.

Just for the record, our break up had nothing to do with firearms, I wish it was that simple.

Since we’re no longer together, I feel like a kid in a candy shop. There is a slight chance we’ll get back together, but in the meantime, I definitely want to take advantage of my new found freedom. I’ve been eyeing up a yugo AK under folder…hmmm.

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation?
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My ex didn't appreciate my gun hobby. We didn't break up over guns either, but guns were a source of friction. I wanted to teach her shotgun proficiency for times I wasn't sleeping at home. I took her to the range. She had fun. However, she never connected the dots to gun usage in her life outside the range. We were engaged. I broke it off. I returned the ring and used the money to buy guns. That was coincidence, not spite. We still hook up every now and then. My personal life is a mess, but it feels better to be single. I don't believe in marriage anymore.
 
BTDT.

I used to bring up firearms on the second or third date. I didnt take too many ladies out more than two or three times.

I brought it up early so that if she had a problem with guns, it was easier for both of us to walk away. Things like that get complicated when casual dating turns into an actual relationship. BTDT too...

Now, as long as I provide for her and our daughter, the lady doesnt care what I buy.

If she gets to where guns dont bother her, thats great. Otherwise I'd walk away and enjoy the Yugo underfolder.

If y'all give it another shot, try taking her to the range, but dont push her into it. Took a while to get my lady to go to the range with me, and now when we go I cant shoot my 9mm AR15 (she's claimed it as hers).
 
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Sometimes experience can change things...

My ex-GF thought it was a bit "obsessives, paranoid, weird, etc..." to have a few guns in the house.

Then came the Rodney King riots: with the fires, lootings, killings, thugs racing through the streets, and the initial utter absence of the cops. Suddenly, my pistol, shotty, and EWR became very good things.

The GF? I ruined a perfectly good relationship by marrying her. Today, she's itching to get some range time and try out her new target revolver. :)
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Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation?
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Yup. I've been single since about 1991. I have nobody to answer to and a whole lot more disposable income. And I buy pretty much any gun I want. Trouble is that I've ended up with more than I can use.

It's tough and lonely being single, but I do have the occasional g/f. I just had such a bad marriage that I'm gun shy about making long term committments.
 
im lucky my girlfriend of over 5years loves to go shooting with me. my first gun was a marlin model 60 .22lr that she took, i then traded her my beretta .22lr pistol back for the rifle that is now a super stock compettitor.

they are hard to find but they are out there. i was just lucky expecally since she can cook some great thai food (she is thai and khmer)
 
I too am single at the moment, my last real girlfriend didn't mind guns, I took her shooting a number of times, she really enjoyed the pistol, but she also enjoyed the company of other men while i was in Iraq. I dated another girl recently who never fired a gun before, and while weare not dating at the moment, I plan on taking her to the range here soon with my 10/22

I should be having a date with another woman here in the near future, we'll have to see how that turns out.
 
My political views in general usually drive them away long before having a few guns could ;)
 
I like John Ross on the subject. From Ross In Range
http://web.archive.org/web/20070503123349/www.john-ross.net/abby.htm

2. Do not fawn over her. Pretty girls get this so much they lose all interest in the guys who kiss up to them. New mindset: You are LETTING HER join you in something exciting. I hope the invitation was "I'm going shooting this weekend--it's going to be perfect weather and there's a great range I use. If you'd like to join me I'll pick you up at 8:30, if you've got something to wear that you won't cry about if it gets a little dirt on it" (said with a grin.)

And it gets better from there.
Maybe that is the reason he is no longer married and I am never wed.
 
sounds like a lot of us have been in this boat

Thanks for sharing everyone, and good luck to all of us single guys (maybe a few single girls here too?).

Although gun ownership did not cause my recent break up, I think my ex had a hard time being with "a gun nut."

An upcoming fight I was anticipating will no longer be an issue now. My grandmother wants to give my brother and I our grandfather's gun collection (he passed about 12 years ago). It's nothing fancy, mostly military bolt actions and department store brand firearms he picked up at yard sales. They'll mean a lot to me because they were his, but the shear volume (10-15 long guns) would have been a challage to my ex.

On a more positive note, it looks like a lot of us will have some extra cash from the anti-recession relief package the congress and president are talking about.

Between a noce tax rebate, and a less expensive personal life, I think I'll be buying some toys pretty soon.
 
I have had more than one question the "need" of such... I have informed them all that the guns were here first and would be looong after they were gone...
 
Things change after a breakup. At least with most significant others, there is no support issues and life starts pretty quickly. My first wife used to go shooting with me. My second wife prefers to ignore my interest in firearms and that suits me just fine. She would have no idea how to shoot most firearms, perhaps a revolver if it was already loaded, but nothing else.

My suggestion is to stay away from this 'X' and find a replacement who has interests closer to yours.
 
they are hard to find but they are out there. i was just lucky expecally since she can cook some great thai food (she is thai and khmer)
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Guess only a few of us can be so lucky.

My wife's Japanese, and up until last weekend was pretty dead-set against guns. We had a huge fight last weekend. I'd just about had my fill of it, and she started looking up planetickets back to Japan, so I told her in so-many-words that she could leave. I guess the reality of the situation sunk-in and she did a complete turn-around, and was asking me what she could do to make me happy. Well...to cut to the chase without divulging ALL the gory details of that night, it finished with her telling me she'd be more accepting of guns (she promised she'd let me take her to the range in the spring), and we're perfectly fine now...even better than before. :)
 
My wife loves firearms and having one loaded next to the bed, going to the range, whatever. She does not like the fact that I spend money on them. So it is a constant battle.
 
I've never let it get that far. I've been so into guns for so long that they've been around me since before I was of "dating age". There's always been an introduction to them in the dating period, whether visual or actual range time. That was a pass/no pass deal with me. Kind of like the girl with the "my cat doesn't like you, you're no good" theory.

I was dating the most beautiful girl ever in college. She saw my 1911 sitting on a rag the coffee table just newly cleaned and freaked. Apparently, a family member committed suicide with a firearm in the distant past and she blamed it all on the tool. That was over within a week.

My wife now is the best ever. She had never seen a gun in person before meeting me and now loves to shoot and more importantly, respects how much it means to me.
 
A bit of "love philosophy" for you guys.:)

When you are even in the process of liking someone and want to date someone, first be sure if you really want to do it or not. Like for example, I am a quiet person and I like quiet people who are very strong about true love and family. I wouldn't date some girl who is in and out of clubs and parties dancing to hip hop and such. Even if she begged me and begged me and begged me, I would automatically refuse each time. I simply don't like open people, or liberals, or party animals.

Now a thing about gun ownership. Here is a chance to see if your chosen mate really loves you or not. If you are a gun owner and she is anti-gun and she makes it clear to you, that means she is not really that close to you at all and still wants to keep a certain distance away from you, even though you are living together or something like that. If she is anti-gun to any extent but she is willing to go along with your views and even decides to go shooting with you when you ask her to, that means she really loves you, wants to be close to you, and no matter what, she is willing to settle your differences in order to be with you.

That is why I never look for career-oriented people. They have their own lives and want to keep a certain distance, or coldness, between you. Same thing with people who have different viewpoints than you and they make it clear that they don't agree with your viewpoints. What should you do? Forget them. Go on with your life. Rejecting someone is much easier than you think.

If someone is willing to put aside the difference between you and her and still go along with you, even though she shares different viewpoints than you, that means you two are really meant to be with each other. Love has a price, and if you two are both willing to pay the price of personal differences, I think you have suceeded in finding your "soulmate"

Did I make myself clear. I hope so.
 
Child support is cheaper than marriage. Take it from a married guy, save your time, money, and sanity and stay single. If I could do it all over again, I would just work 2 jobs, and take a month vacation in Thailand every year.
 
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