For those that cringe at shooting a Smith & Wesson 500, you are likely shooting it wrong. You might try googling how to fire a big bore weapon for training, but you can forget Weaver, Isoseles, etc. NO-NOs include any light touch on the grip or trigger, letting the report surprise you during the trigger squeeze (that WILL mess up your hands and wrist(s)).
I shoot left-handed, was trained to lock my left wrist with my right palm over it, and lean "into it", anticipate the discharge, and almost "squeeze the black out of the grip" (a usual no-no and a term we used to admonish student carrier pilots torturing a jet's joystick). Once you know WHEN it will dishcarge, you can learn where the very flat trajectory will end up, and can get out well beyond 100 yds ( often set my bull at 200 yd). This is alot different than my experience with 45 ACP, 44 mag, 357 Mag, those toy 9mm's etc etc... But it really works, the baby loads like 275 grain, up past 400 to 500 grains. I shoot 60 rounds per monthly visit to the local 'pits' (using 3 boxes; BTW, Cabellas and others sell 20 round boxes at more like $1.25 to $1.50 a round... not 3 bucks, unless you are shooting the high end loads or like to throw money at retail ammo); then I plink for fun with my .357 with mag (King Cobra 4" barrel) loads for a few more hundred rounds. And while I used to be a fit powerlifter in college, and I was an expert marksman in the military for well over a quarter century, that was way back then - not at age 48, now, all out of shape LOL...
I never ever had stinging or hurt hand/wrist/arm shooting the S&W 500 properly, and can rapid-fire all 5 rounds in 4 seconds and keep on a 3 ft target at 100 yds... Not bragging - just holding it correctly. not gripping it like one of those little revolvers (like my .357 mag) <wink>...
I will say that it may make a difference that my 500 is a beefier 7.5 inch Performance Center - the healthy mass, barrel and compensator do help to make it "heave" more than "rap" like my fun with 44 mag's. The mass makes holding it up a bit hard for small people I have found, but is part of the 'saving of the hands'...
IMO the 50 mag is less viscious on the hands than a 44 mag, primarily owing to these attributes. Again, I encourage you to read up on some links on this. If you do not like the 500 and you fired a short barrel, go try a longer barrel one, even a heavier Performance Center one; make sure one with the compnsator... and readup up on big bore shooting technique...
BTW if you get a quality 532 nm laser on a rail on the S&W 500, you solve even more handling problems, in that you can offset your recoil down your shooting arm (and miss your forehead in the recoil LOL). Just make sure it is well anchored on the rail (three clamps are best), or see it go bye bye while plinking the hotter loads....
Good luck - have no doubt, the Smith & Wesson 500 on the heavier end, is no hand destroyer -- *IF* you hold it right. Clearly less 'snap' even than 44's -
Good Luck,
Paul