HMMurdock:
You might want to consider the Winchester .357mag 180gr Nosler Partition Gold HP for the snubbie. In my experience, it is a whole lot less dramatic* than 125gr & even 158gr .357mag social loads.
Yeah, it was designed for hunting, but it did not lose much muzzle velocity out of my 2" snubby (1000fps) vs the Winchester 8" vented test bbl (1180fps). They must be using a moderately fast powder.
Expansion plus near-certain adequate penetration.
Good luck & stay safe.
* Muzzle blast & recoil. The muzzle blast was significantly reduced & the recoil somewhat reduced.