MJRW - If you check various Benelli-related threads in the archives, you'll find that HSMITH and I usually play point/counterpoint.
FWIW, I've got two Benellis, a 12ga Montefeltro and a 20ga M1 Field, both with many thousands of shells through them. They have been rock-solid performers and I do not find any problem with perceived recoil. IMO, they have less recoil than O/Us or pumps, and only slightly more recoil than a gas-operated auto. In fact, my wife, who is 5'3" and #110 has been using the Montefeltro exclusively for about a year when shooting sporting clays and trap. Perhaps the difference is more pronounced with stout waterfowling loads, but for target loads and ones commonly used for upland birds, the recoil is quite manageable.
As far as cycling lighter loads, the official line from Benelli is that the 12ga can cycle 1 1/8 oz loads. Recently, I've been experimenting with some truly light 7/8oz loads running about 1220fps. So far, it has been working just fine with them. The caveat here is that it is working on my particular gun, which is very well broken-in.
Both Benellis are extremely easy to strip and clean, and despite lots of use, appear almost brand new.
As far as the Super X-2, I've heard nothing but good about them, although I have no personal experience. The one downside (and it is a small one), is that you can't get a clip-on T&S shellcatcher for the X-2. If you end up shooting a large amount of trap with the gun, that can be an inconvenience. There are other ways to do it, but the shellcatchers are extremely convenient.
With either the Benelli or the Winchester, you'd have a very nice gun that's likely to outlast you. It's hard to go wrong with either.