Bobson
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Well put, Sol. Agreed with just about everything you said. I do think Cooper's colors are beneficial, but neither do I bear them in mind on a regular basis.
Trunk Monkey said:How do you react when random people go out of their way to enter your bubble in public?
Trunk Monkey said:it doesn’t mean I draw my weapon, assume a modified weaver and order you to the floor
BullFrog Ken said:Ok, then what does it mean that you do?
Trunk Monkey said:It means I start looking for other indicators. Are you trying to get too close to me? What’s in your hands? Are you older (like maybe your generation is a little more outgoing than mine)? Are you younger and dressed like a gangbanger? Was whatever you said your opening to pan handle me or try to get me to buy weed or Amway or whatever?
Bullfrog ken said:So, how do you handle a panhandler who asks you for spare change?
Bullfrog Ken said:How do you handle it when someone, "majorly crosses the line I go up the scale a lot quicker"? What exactly does that mean in terms of what you do?
Bull frog Ken said:What's your in-between? Simply studying someone's hands and getting all tense is not really going to alter someone's behavior who is about to do a bad deed. It will make decent people think there's something wrong with you, like, "Is he paranoid and a meth head?" And truly bad people aren't impressed.
Trunk Monkey said:It means I start looking for other indicators. Are you trying to get too close to me? What’s in your hands? Are you older (like maybe your generation is a little more outgoing than mine)? Are you younger and dressed like a gangbanger? Was whatever you said your opening to pan handle me or try to get me to buy weed or Amway or whatever?
Trunk Monkey said:Fairly clear indicator that you din't read the actual words that I wrote because I quite clearly said
You're wrong, it is an overreaction in general and specifically in the cases you've describedTrunk Monkey said:I posted on another forum that if random people approach me and attempt to engage me in conversation just out of the blue I tend to treat it like I would an interview and I tend to go into Orange mode.
The other person stated that to go into orange mode just because some one approaches you was an over reaction. ( I don't believe it is)
That is a social childhood norm, it is usually something most folks mature beyond in their early teen yearsMaybe it's me but I don't know a single person who would consider the behavior I described as "normal". In fact the social norm that we are taught from childhood is to beware of strangers.
This incident may have had a larger impact on your world view then you may be aware of. If you were a personal friend who had this experience and was currently exhibiting the behavior and rationalization you've described, I'd suggest they consult with a metal health professional.When I was 7 or 8 years old a lady tried to kidnap me right out of a grocery store.
The setting is everything and you wanted to take his weapon hand...his reaction was normal. Plus starting an encounter with deceit isn't usually the best choiceThere is no way in the world you can tell me that my approach (prior to my explanation of why I approached him) was something he considered normal and he did appear to get defensive.
This indicates to me that I’m not the only anti social bastard on the planet who puts the shields up as soon as someone crosses my boundaries