i think you just hit upon a click within a genus. i raise Boxers, and used to go to a very busy dogpark here in houston. Most every one here is very friendly and knows each other , and knows each others dogs, and how they act and react, and get grouchy, etc. Every now and again, someone would come in , who was obviously a dog lover, but had a twitchy dog( much like the owner's personalities). then if one of our dogs would try to play or chase or play fightwith the new dog, new dog would freak out , and maybe go on the attack. The owner would invariably freak out, get loud , yell scream , etc. all the while blaming you and your dog, then leave the area or move out in a big huff. Whereas all the regulars, would go , that dog needs to learn and socialize, what is that chick or dudes problem? The dog woudla been okay after about 5 or 10 minutes of learning, with a big bunch of dogs, how to act. The jerkstore owner however, would never let this happen. sometimes dogs just have to be dogs for a while , and let them figure it all out.
Same with some shooters who take themselves WAY TO SERIOUS. I met a ex marine shooter at the range one day , who had all the fancy pad gear, and from the prone, was shooting as good or better, with me on my super scoped 22. But this guy was as nice as could be, and readily offered me advice and tips on eye site line, body control, etc.
you jsut happened to run into some jerkstores, same as I have in the dog breeding game. I've had some great dogs, but when i sell from a litter, i would like them to go to people who will show them, it looks good for my bitches and bloodline. But my first concern is that they go to good homes. Some of the Breeders look at me with horror in their eyes, and that i dont spend 10 's of thousands of dollars to show them , and promote them , and advertise them, myself. i try to tell them , hey I breed in my spare time because i enjoy the science of it, and am glad to get them in good homes. I have a regular full time job, this is not my all consuming life, like it is to a lot of these older folks.