Clarification:
My divorce had nothing to do with Firearms, monies spent on firearms related matters. I competed, I reloaded, and the wife had her interests, and monies to do what she wanted. Priorites of taking care of bills and savings came first. We had disposable income.
In fact her daddy was my shooting partner, he warned me about marrying his daughter, he had divorced her mom many many years before - he proved to be correct about the being 'unfaithful' my wife pulled, resulting in me divorcing her, her mom had done the same. She became pregnant while we were separated, waiting on divorce - she made the choice , not I .
She wanted what she wanted and got it thru this affair [ I guess] I packed up my firearms, related stuff and left.
The father of the child as a result of this affair, passed away, so she raises this child by herself. Her mom has also passed on. I still see my old partner, as he is my personal physican...
She has has told her daddy, and he related to me ...she really goofed up big time. My ex, with her daughter looking at pics of "grandpa" ( my partner remember) out shooting, competing, and whatever else we did...asked who "that guy is" [me of course].
Well Grandpa explained it, his daughter squirming and very uncomfortable. Yes I did meet this child, she wanted to meet me and was at Grandpa's office [ being a Dr she uses his clinic] . I did not see my ex. I did sit down and visit with this child in his office,, eating his Jelly Beans...I did it for the kid to have some closure, I did it for some closure for me as well. That kid can make her own determination about me, she hears mom's "version" and she hears Grandpa, Grandma,and the rest of the families "version".
I left that little girl , result of my ex having an affair, with " to thine own self be true", "If you tell the truth, you won't have to remember a lie". I then handed her a box of .22 ammo, and one of .410, I knew Grandpa was teaching this gal to shoot, had given her guns. That Child wanted to give me a hug, she did. As Grandpa took her to her mom, I went out the back way.
Firearms are part of this little girl's life, Grandpa takes care of that. I understand Grandpa had to explain it probably would not be a good idea If Steve joined them sometime. "Grandpa...the Ducks and Shotgun border is still in the room where he reloaded, I like that room" . Grandpa said, " Lots of good times in that room, go sit quietly and listen to what you can learn from what all went on in there" . That is where she does her dry fire practice I'm told. She uses the Ducks on the border to "swing thru" as I did.