It is finally over!! I can now share my story.
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orionengnr
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I'm sorry that the two of you had to go through that ordeal, but honestly...great job on both of your parts.
This is the part of the post that was most striking for me. I'm not sure that most of us would have the presence of mind to succinctly hammer home this critical point.
ole farmerbuck
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Wow! I dont know what to say but good for your wife. She's a life long keeper.
SouthernYankee
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It's horrible that your wife was victimized by both the lawless and the law, talk about double jeopardy! I'm glad all is now well and you can now begin to heal and live free lives again, Chins up!
chris in va
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Curious, were you able to buy another handgun in the meantime, or was there a prohibition while the XD was being 'processed'?
Apachedriver
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I know what you mean but keep in mind that you did protect your family. Maybe not in person at the very instant, but think about how much worse it would've been if you had never worked with your wife in order for her to have the skill set and mindset to act in the required manner for her survival.
Kudos to you for not being the macho man but instead involving her in purchasing/training. Kudos to her for taking it seriously therefore allowing her act accordingly.
I'd rather it be me any day of the week, to have to take such actions, but the next best thing is my wife and kids being prepared mentally and physically to live.
Impureclient
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Glad everything turned out good for your family. Still would have been nice to hear relevant information so we can all learn from the experience.
This is what we all dread going through and hearing first hand what to expect rather than armchair advising on this delicate situation would have helped.
Maybe spare the gore details and fill us in on the legalities of what happened and why if there is any information that would help others.
This is what we all dread going through and hearing first hand what to expect rather than armchair advising on this delicate situation would have helped.
Maybe spare the gore details and fill us in on the legalities of what happened and why if there is any information that would help others.
Deltaboy1984
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Prayers for your family and we are praying for you all.
My wife and I both carry. I certainly hope neither one of us is ever has to even put our hands on on our guns. I can live without the grief and hassle. Plus the grief from being pushed into an SD situation. Even though your wife wasn't charged (and rightly so), it must have been a very difficult time for your family.
FIVETWOSEVEN
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Well in a sense he was a victim of his own stupidity. Glad things worked out for you.
Tim the student
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Glad everything worked out for you. Tell your wife that she did a good job.
12131
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Thank you!
silvermane_1
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glad to hear your story eb1, that's what the RTBA is all about, my heart goes out to you and your wife for the whole ordeal, but at least your family is safe.
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gbran
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Had an incident in my home back in 1991 that was ruled justifiable homicide. It was my gun, but I wasn't the shooter. I did get my gun back 18 months after the incident.
EB1 Thank you for sharing this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I've read the whole tread and was numb reading your post about being 50 miles away. I know that ride home must have been he77. I wish you well and hope your wife has been able to move forward. I hope I never have to face a situation where a firearm is needed for protection.
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Frankl03
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Sorry about what you family went through. Your wife did the right thing, I'm glad she was not victimized a second time by the legal system. Great job getting your wife ready to face a life threatening situation.
Glad you got your xd back as well!
Glad you got your xd back as well!
Dont ever blame yourself for "not being there." You WERE there for her by helping her train and be a responsible gun owner/user. I suppose its like raising kids, you wont always be able to be there for them, but if you give them the tools they need to make it in this world, you have done your part.
In regards to the trauma of having to have been in the situation itself... I have heard a statistic of how many LEO's retire within say, 3 or 4 years of being in an officer involved shooting. I cant remember the exact numbers, but it is very high. These are trained professionals who enter the profession knowing that there is a real chance of being involved in a shooting of some sort. These things are very mentally taxing, to say the least, even when 110% justified. I commend you for fighting the good fight and keeping on keeping on. God was looking out for your family that night, and it sounds likeyour preparation paid off.
In regards to the trauma of having to have been in the situation itself... I have heard a statistic of how many LEO's retire within say, 3 or 4 years of being in an officer involved shooting. I cant remember the exact numbers, but it is very high. These are trained professionals who enter the profession knowing that there is a real chance of being involved in a shooting of some sort. These things are very mentally taxing, to say the least, even when 110% justified. I commend you for fighting the good fight and keeping on keeping on. God was looking out for your family that night, and it sounds likeyour preparation paid off.
MIL-DOT
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I'll second wrs840's request to know what state this occured in.
lobo9er
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well in a round about way it was, I am sure you helped your wife practice and prepare. you and your family are alive and well because of it. I wouldn't be to hard on yourself, its not like anyone could have known anything like that would have happened.
I will give a detailed report of what happened that day. Right now, I have been in such silence about it for so long that I'd like to let it set in that it is over.
I can't describe the feeling. Just imagine your freedoms being dangled in front of you. Your wife's freedom and your children future all hanging by a thread.
Imagine this:
Your wife is convicted. 15 years minimum, possibly suspended + $15,000 to $200,000 in fines. Now your wife is free, but she is a felon. Now you cannot have guns in the house any longer. We all love our guns right. Your family is in shambles. Oh! My wife was pregnant at the time. So if she'd gone to jail, my child would have been born in prison.
I really think it was a good lawyer, and the eye to eye stare down that I had with the detective. That moment was long even though it was only about 3-5 sec. A lot of information was relayed in those seconds. I felt he thought about his family, his life, and what was at stake in my life.
I the coming days, I will write out the happenings. I will post them here after the admins have agreed that it is in good taste and meets the high road's standards, and doesn't break any forum rules.
I can't describe the feeling. Just imagine your freedoms being dangled in front of you. Your wife's freedom and your children future all hanging by a thread.
Imagine this:
Your wife is convicted. 15 years minimum, possibly suspended + $15,000 to $200,000 in fines. Now your wife is free, but she is a felon. Now you cannot have guns in the house any longer. We all love our guns right. Your family is in shambles. Oh! My wife was pregnant at the time. So if she'd gone to jail, my child would have been born in prison.
I really think it was a good lawyer, and the eye to eye stare down that I had with the detective. That moment was long even though it was only about 3-5 sec. A lot of information was relayed in those seconds. I felt he thought about his family, his life, and what was at stake in my life.
I the coming days, I will write out the happenings. I will post them here after the admins have agreed that it is in good taste and meets the high road's standards, and doesn't break any forum rules.
Sam1911
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EB, please don't feel you should post anything you do not wish to share, or revisit. Such things are not always easy to re-live, and sometimes the following discussion may prove uncomfortable.
Make sure you're ok with that before you open this part of your private and difficult experiences up to the public eye. If and when you are ready, we're more than happy to render assistance if desired.
Arkansas Paul
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+1 for your wife. It's always nice when the good guys win.
And I second what Sam said. Share if you want to, but if not, don't.
And I second what Sam said. Share if you want to, but if not, don't.
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