Parting shot with Dad

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Dec. 11 last year my father passed away. His health had slowly failed over the last 20 years due to emphysema, asthma and diabetes. However, it was an Abdominal Aortic Aneurism that ended his life. Actually, a quite merciful death as he always was worried he might die as his father had, slowly suffocating as his lungs filled with fluid because of the emphysema.

Dad started taking me duck hunting with him when I was 11 years old. I couldn't legally hunt, but I guess I made a good bird dog.
When I was old enough to hunt, he bought me a used Stevens single shot 20 gauge that kicked like the proverbial Missouri Mule and would leave me black and blue from the top of my shoulder to the nipple on my boy-thin chest. Got my very first duck and my very first pheasant with that bruiser! Two seasons later he gave it to my brother and bought me a spankin' new Sears 12 gauge pump! It fit better. Didn't beat me up near so bad and I killed a lot more birds with it, too. Dad taught me to hunt birds, clean 'em and how to cook 'em, too. I learned deer hunting and big game hunting in general, on my own and never had the opportunity to hunt deer with Dad.

Dad and his brothers bought a patch of ground about 1970 for deer hunting and leased some more from the US Forrest Service. They would pitch a tent and rough it. Then one year during their annual trip, a blizzard blew in during their second night and the temperature dropped to 20 below. That did it. The older brothers decided a cabin had to be built. So they did the all the next summer and a fall tradition was begun about the time I left for the Air Force. Six years later I was in college with a wife and two little kids of my own when I got my first invitation to join Dad on the fall deer hunt, but it would be another six years before conditions would allow me to to so. By then, Dad couldn't walk up out of the steep canyon where the cabin stood, up to the hunting areas. I hunted with my brother, though, and we became quite close over those years.

So, this year my brother and I met at the cabin for a lonely hunt, just the two of us. He didn't have a tag, but I did, so I shot a little button buck and Bro helped me drag him back to the cabin. We had a cup of coffee and a quick sandwich. Then Bro picked up a small lidded ceramic jar and I a large concrete brick and we hiked up out of the canyon to "The Big Meadow". Near the highest point of the meadow is a very old abandoned farmer's disc. Probably 1920's vintage. Here I cut into the sod close to the disc with my Buck Folding Hunter and set Dad's brick semi-flush with the earth. It said quite simply "Jim". Bro reached into his hunting jacket and pulled out a bottle of Crown Royal wrapped in a familiar purple cloth bag with gold colored drawstring. Dad had been a drinker, and CR was his liquor of preference. Bro broke the seal and said while he tipped it up, "Here's to you, Dad!". He handed the bottle to me and as I was taking a drink, he emptied Dad's ashes in the Wyoming wind. "There you go, Pop! We'll come visit you every fall." We each took another long drink. Then we put the bottle back in the bag and hung it on the rust-frozen release handle of the old disc before we walked back down to the cabin.

When we were about half way back, a thought occured to me and I asked, "You think the wind will break it banging it against the disk?"
"Maybe," my brother answered. "If so, then I guess Dad might want a drink, too."

Two weeks later the rest of the usual hunting camp showed up. The bottle was still there, unbroken. Each guy went up alone and had a drink and spent some time with Jim. When the bottle went empty, someone drove into town for another and hung it on the disc.

We'll have a drink with him next year, too. And the year after that, and the year after that, and.....

Poper
 
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one word to summarize and a point to ponder...

1) simply NICE...

2) cherish the memories...good and bad...they are a deep and strong part of who you are
 
UNDER the wide and starry sky
Dig the grave and let me lie:
Glad did I live and gladly die,
And I laid me down with a will.

This be the verse you 'grave for me:
Here he lies where he long'd to be;
Home is the sailor, home from the sea,
And the hunter home from the hill.

Here's to you Jim.
 
Sorry for your loss but nice story. This time of year sucks for me too. My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer in Nov. 2004 Died on New Years Eve. Only 6 weeks from diagnosis to death. But....they live on in the stories we share with others.

Today your dad lives on in everyone who reads this post.

God Bless
 
great true story

if there is a life in the here-after, you dad's gotta be very proud that his sons continue the traditions he buried deep in your soul. He can look down on his two sons and share a drink with you each year and watch you hunt. and im sure he's scouting out some great hunting land up there, getting ready for the day you join him. tradition.... thats what its all about. best to you and yours and good hunting - Eric
 
Dang. Touches me inside....

Poper,
Sorry for your loss.
Nice tradition you and your brother have started. Kind of makes my eyes mist up. I hope I will do as well for my Dad...
Waddison
 
Great story of a great man and his family. Things like this remind me (and I hope for all of you) how important it is to spend time with your kids in the great outdoors.

I am going hunting this weekend (my last for the year) with a friend of mine and my son. He is too young to hunt, but he enjoys our time out in the woods and I enjoy spending it with him.
 
Thanks for sharing this with us. I lost my dad several years to stomach cancer. He suffered too much. It was hard on all of us to watch him die a miserable death. We lived about 60 miles apart and in his last weeks he used to call me on my cell phone at all hours just to see how I was. One night he told me that he wanted to go to the hospital. When the rescue came I knew I would never see dad again. I rubbed his shoulders and neck and told him that I loved him. Dad had an old ford tractor and he loved to take it for a ride out in the woods and have a good cigar. To this day whenever I go to his woods I think he will come driving up smoking his cigar.

Come to think of it I'll bet good money that it was those cigars that caused his cancer. I smoked a few cigars in my day and recall that they upset my stomach.
 
Thanks for sharing your Dad with us Poper. We just said goodbye to my Dad as well. We all got together and shared a pull of his favorite Brandy, then I tucked the rest of the bottle and a cigar in with him for his journey.

I am going to steal your idea for next deer season. I am going to hang a jug of Christian Brothers out on his favorite hunting ground - where he had been going for more than 50 years and where his Dad hunted before him. He now has almost two dozen sons, nephews, grandsons, granddaughters and grand-nephews hunting that great piece of land. What a legacy these great American men leave.

To your father.
 
ReadyontheRight:

I am going to steal your idea for next deer season.
Please do not think of it as stealing. Considering the season and the way my brother and dad would think, we would like it to be our gift to all who peruse THR and their families, too.

Poper
 
Poper,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my father 20 years ago. He was by best friend and hunting partner. After he died I just lost interest in hunting. I'm back into it now but it isn't the same. I shed a lot of tears over him and still do. I inherited all of his guns and even his truck that I stilll drive to this day. I can't get in that truck or shoot one of his guns without thinking about him.

My father died from complications of a brain tumor surgery. He was 48 years old. It's nice to see you have started a tradition with your family in your fathers memory.

Godspeed,
Tony
 
I'm truly sorry for your loss.
I lost my Dad this last spring. There's not a day he doesn't come to mind, but when I'm alone in the wild it seems he speaks to me on the wind, or in the rustling of the water.
Last July was my first trip to Alaska alone in 11 years. I'd sometimes find myself just standing there listening, and telling myself stories, and remembering his.
This summer we scattered his ashes from one of the "Fourteeners" he had climbed, and loved to look down from.
One of our favorite old songs says it best;

When my old soul seeks range, and rest,
beyond the last divide.
Plant me in some strip of west,
lonesome high and wide.
Let cattle rub my tombstone round.
Let coyotes mourn their kin.
May horses come and paw the mound,
don't you fence it in.
 
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