Pro/Anti family members?

When my wife and I got married she had a cat, didn't like guns, and was terrified of my 90lb German Shepard. Growing up in Texas guns and dogs were part of my upbringing. Fast forward 15 years and we have two dogs, zero cats, and his and her gun safes. She also has her CHL and carries daily and enjoys going to the range and gun shows. (I practically had to drag her out of the exhibition hall at this years NRA convention in Houston after 7 hours of roaming the aisles.)

So for anyone with an anti-gun spouse, just be patient and keep working on them.

ozarkgunner said:

My wife and I have been together almost 15 years, and she grew up in a gun friendly home. Her mood on guns goes back and forth, changes with the seasons or something. At home she'll give me crap when I gear up before I or we head out. You should see her when I mention a gun show coming up, or wanting to go gun shopping. Yet when we are out and about, whether it's out in the country side or someplace in town that doesn't look "great", shell ask me if I'm carrying.
Anyone else have someone in their life that goes back and forth? Who has a significant other that is a strict anti?

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Mine enjoys shooting when I actually get her out to the range, talks about getting her own revolver and her CHL, but never does anything towards that, and will gripe about all the money I spend on ammo. I'm thinking that it might not be realistic to expect consistency....

ozarkgunner said:

My wife and I have been together almost 15 years, and she grew up in a gun friendly home. Her mood on guns goes back and forth, changes with the seasons or something. At home she'll give me crap when I gear up before I or we head out. You should see her when I mention a gun show coming up, or wanting to go gun shopping. Yet when we are out and about, whether it's out in the country side or someplace in town that doesn't look "great", shell ask me if I'm carrying.
Anyone else have someone in their life that goes back and forth? Who has a significant other that is a strict anti?

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Sounds like your wife is concerned about security. Financial security regarding what you are spending or might spend on guns. And personal security, feeling more comfortable when you're armed and can protect her.

That can be said about most any subject. Even with-in families.

I've had a few family members that were a little nervous of guns (never shot them or been to the range even though I've tried) but same thing, a suspicious vehicle comes up the driveway or we're walking in a not so great area they always make sure I'm carrying.

It's like that saying goes; 'It's your right not to believe in God or own a gun like I do, but if someone breaks in the first two things you're going to do is call someone with a gun, pray he gets there in time.' Something like that anyway.

I find friends/family eventually get used to guns the more I talk about them and they hear it in everyday conversations. They find it more normal now than they used to.

I had a girl friend a few years ago that was both anti gun and anti hunting.
I managed to change her mind on both accounts. She even let me hunt
on her land.

I have a friend that was anti gun , but now she has her CCW permit.

Problem with both of these people is that they still vote for the anti gun
side.

Yeap, My BIL`s wife, we were at my MIL`s house one time & we got to talking about guns & I mentioned how many guns I had. She ask why I had that many guns & I said because I can, she has`nt spoken to me sence.................

Yes. They tolorate other family members who have a fascination with firearms.

This recent event in NYC certainly has become a discussion topic after they watch the video of the family in the Range Rover. We all know that there are uncivil people, but the video of the motor cycle "gang" tormenting, scaring, and eventually assaulting the driver of the Range Rover certainly makes you think about self defense.

My wife is anti-gun, but she's okay with my collecting/shooting.

303tom, My BIL's wife not talking to me wouldn't be all that bad of a deal IMO .
My wife flip flops back and forth. She has gotten used to me carrying most the time but still comments about it every once in awhile. We've had a couple instances late at night that she's been glad I have a gun right next to the bed in the safe. Then again she doesn't like having the gun safe there since we have little kids, keep in mind it is always locked. Women, what can you do, its like watching the turning of the tides .

Of course I have family members who aren't nearly as gun friendly as I. You can't choose your family.
As far as my wife, if she had been anti gun, there would never have been a date #2 and you can believe that.

My mom isn't really anti-gun politically, but she doesn't really like having them in the house (I'm 20 years old and living at home until I finish school). My dad and I have always had an interest in firearms, but my mom hasn't really been vocal at all until our recent purchase of an AR, a tactical handgun (FNX-45 tactical) and a Saiga 12 (complete with 20-shell drum etc etc). She doesn't mind the old-school stuff like the surplus. She just gets freaked out by the "assault weapons".

My FIL was a competitive skeet shooter and avid hunter, but he raised my wife to fear handguns. We'd been married over 20 years with me carrying before it dawned on her that if I went down, it would be good if she knew how to make holes in bad guys. She asked me to train her - and was adamant it had to be ME.
She's a pretty good shot. It took a few tries to find what she likes, but she's got a M&P 9c now - and is applying for a CCW.

This can suck. My sister is anti gun. I once posted a picture of my young daughter holding my 22 while squirell hunting with me on my FB and she actually pubically attacked me for doing it. It was kinda stressful

My wife isn't quite the "gun nut" that I am, but she does have her own guns and enjoys shooting. She is also determined that she will get a CCW permit ... once the People's Republic of Illinois gets their act together, anyway. I honestly don't know of anyone on either side of our family who didn't grow up with guns.

I no longer have time for family members who cancel my vote on the gun issues. Sadly, it divides families when die hard zealots refuse to sit down and listen to logic. I am more than willing to discuss and "make" my position with facts, but the other side often acts like it beneath them to discuss the gun issues, Obamacare, Obama, etc, and walks out of anything that isn't going their way in a discussion. Now I just let them go, BEFORE we get into a discussion.

My older sister is bewildered that both of her younger brothers are active shooters and gun owners. It's just not a subject for discussion unless it is a "hunting" subject, which she readily accepts.

My guns either "hunt" paper or people that wish to harm me. Much success with the former and no need thus far for the latter. Just the way I want to keep things.

I have over the years developed a shut down response to friends and family who have bad things to say. I nod along and only offer my opinion if asked.

Just because they are annoying to bring it up doesn't mean I have to be abrasive enough to "correct" them.

This doesn't really have to do with this thread but, I'm seeing pictures on pinterest, kids with. 22 or pellet guns, and the parent writes under the pic that it was taken while hunting or shooting and that the gun was absolutely unloaded. What's with all the disclaimers?

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This was a FB, pic I posted.... nobody showed up to my door.


My in-laws are kinda liberal, but avid shooters, plus, they know i'm a "gun-nut".

haha yep op i am there with you, she always asks in those moments, "do you have your gun?"
me "yes"
her "good"

My daughter in law is very anti-gun. She doesn't know why, other than "I am scared of them." I have tried to get her to go shooting and teach her about guns but she refuses. She was very upset when my son and I took my grandson (age 12) to the range, and I taught him to shoot. He fired everything from a .22 rifle to a 1911 .45acp and loved it. But his mother wont let him go again "until he gets older." My son says that it is not worth the hassle to try to change her mind. So my DIL and I just don't talk about it and agree to disagree.

The rest of my family shoots and own firearms with questioning it.

My wife grew up in a home without weapons. My FIL was completely ambivalent about them but my MIL was quite vocal in her dislike of guns of any kind, even my BB gun.lol My wife surprised me early on in our marriage, saying she wanted to give deer hunting a try but after two years she declined to go anymore because of being cold. Fast forward 40 years later, both she and our daughter announced 5 years ago they wanted to obtain a ccw permit. Today both own their own pistols (both are excellent shots)and have their concealed permits. Were she still alive, my MIL probably would have had a heart attack.